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Re: Should Black People...

SistahSouljah ·
Comfortable??? How comfortable have they made us? *laughing hysterically*
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
[QUOTE]Originally posted by qty226: One fact....women are talkers (sometimes we talk too much), so you pretty much know whats coming. QUOTE] True ladies are talkers but again their actions are more telling and does not always match their words.
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Re: Should Black People...

AudioGuy ·
You are quite obviously mis-named... The "feedback" you have given is useless. How exactly would you propose the we do what you have imagined?? White people are not going to transfer their kids to a majority Black school under any circumstances - no matter how good the school is, that will NOT happen... What "goal" are you referring to?? Many times this is already the case, white people just refuse to believe it... If we just got BLACK people to believe what you are saying, we would not NEED...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

bigddouble ·
No objections from me minx - but I did notice that you DID NOT call on ANY sisters to say something positive about the men . I agree with RR (again) - there is no reason to be phony when we're here to give our perspectives.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
I agree. So why can't we "be real" about Black men's situation in this country? When African-American women talk about how this state of affairs is impacting their lives, why can't you all respectfully acknowledge what you are hearing and reading? Whenever an African-American woman tells people about how the deterioration of her community is impacting her future, all she gets are expressions of disbelief and denial, followed by a list of general dating tips. Well Black women are not apart of...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
So if a lot Black women are having similiar dating experiences, what are we to conclude? Is poor dating experiences something that is unique to Black women? Are Black women just "bad daters?"
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
* I have no problems with reality {I actually prefer it to the self-boosting misinformation often floating about the Black community}, so long as those women acknowledge that they chose to date those guys all by themselves [cherry picked]. It was her choice to date/pursue Joe Thug and Ray-ray and thus it was her 'fault' when they let her down. If you sleep with dogs, you just might wake up with fleas and puppies!!! She also can't blame 'sane' black men that didn't appeal to her 'Ray-Ray'...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: Should Black People...

Empty Purnata ·
Kevin, Nmaginate, All I gotta say is, that Kneegrow is insane (CF). He's so effing non-sensical and self-hating, that he's giving me high blood pressure just talking to him, I think I'm going to stop while my health is still ahead, and I still have my sanity...... I wish we had an "ignore" feature around here so we could all put CF on our Ignore List.
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Re: Why do souls come to Earth?

HonestBrother ·
IMHO heaven, hell, and earth are the same place. What, after all, is paradise? What knowledge do we have of it? In fact, when we try to imagine it don't we just extrapolate from our earthly experiences? I mean we imagine seeing loved ones, maybe we'll relive our best memories, love, happiness, etc. Ditto for hell.
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show

Kweli4Real ·
While I've never seen one of her shows, you brought up an interesting point about stage performances. It's been more than 5 years since I've seen anything other than primarily instrumental jazz performances. Why? because too many vocal "artists" can't do live, what they do in the studio. And, those that come close to approaching their studio efforts, spend more time on their scripted to the minute routine and it comes across as the umpteenth time they've performed it. I wish we could go back...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
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Re: Should Black People...

FireFly ·
LMAO! 'fucktard' (!?) .
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show

powerflower ·
Check out India.arie. She puts on a helluva show too; she even put her gitaur down for a while and played the flute.
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Re: Why do souls come to Earth?

Empty Purnata ·
I don't believe in eternal souls, I believe that souls are impermanent essences. My view of the soul is similar to that of a Buddhist, or Aristotle's view on the soul: http://www.answers.com/topic/soul Jesus did not teach that souls are immortal, seperate, wraithly persons either: Jesus taught that the Kingdom of Heaven is not "here or there", but that is "within you". I believe that Jesus' "Kingdome of Heaven" may have been a metaphor stressing something along the lines of...
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Re: Should Black People...

Frenchy ·
Yes, Black people should put white people's fears at ease. Instead of letting the poor white man suffer through an entire train ride, watching you and clutching his bag, just rob him blind as soon as you get on the train so you both can relax. Etc. None of us are easily separated from our misconceptions and stereotypes. If I spot a white man wearing dark clothing and a shaved head with tattoos on his body... he's a skinhead. If he doesn't attack me, he is a skinhead in a particularly...
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Re: Should Black People...

Blacksanction ·
Frenchy None of us are easily separated from our misconceptions and stereotypes. If I spot a white man wearing dark clothing and a shaved head with tattoos on his body... he's a skinhead. If he doesn't attack me, he is a skinhead in a particularly generous mood. He is not going to do or say anything to put me at complete ease. I presume the opposite is also true. ___________________________________________________ This is so true. The important thing is not to embarass the other person by...
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Re: Should Black People...

Nmaginate ·
Speak for yourself. On that skinhead thing... That's you and only you until ALL OF US say that is us.
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Re: Should Black People...

powerflower ·
The context was how we behave in public in general, getting on an elevator, entering a building, walking down the street, etc. As far as commerce is concerned, an good business person should have good customer service skills period. As a business person, if the clients you want are multi-racial then you need to cater to them so that you can get their business. That means treating them with respect, in certain cases trying to anticipate their desires, etc. That goes for Black and White and...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
I had read the thread, and posted before. I will tell you what I think about the question you posed, but I don't think all the men are saying that all Black women are naturally bad daters/decision makers. I think that people are getting all riled up when they disagree with what someone posts and then they respond emotionally. Hey, I do it too I don't think the original post was meant to be offensive. I think it was directed at women because it came from a magazine directed at women. I wasn't...
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Re: Should Black People...

Kevin41 ·
***That schit with him and Lofton has grown old indeed.....but i'm sure it will fizzle down to nothing this year...its overdue......
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
i repeat: do men and women from other races hate each other this much or is it unique to black folks?
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Re: this is sad...Out of America by Keith Richburg, venom!

Nmaginate ·
I think this is an important and interesting point:Quote and review (partially listed in first post) as found on: http://www.asante.net/articles/richburg-review.html
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

FireFly ·
I don't understand this, but anyhoo... I wanted to ask you to share with us some dating tips for guys from a gay perspective? It is dating tips for guys, and I'd love to hear how gay guys approach dating. Thanks.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

folobatuyi ·
Powerflower, I totally agree with you and feel that this is one of the wisest statements on this thread....how old are you by the way? and are you a Rutgers graduate? I am from NJ too; Rutgers-Newark, class of 1997 Just wondering....
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Re: Battling Campus Racism-Leaders Demand Action

Empty Purnata ·
I think we need more college campus progressive groups. As active as the College Republicans are these days, we REALLY need more Progressives to step up to the bat and counter-act this current retro-gressive revolution in America. We need PROGRESSIVES, since the Dems are too weak to step up to the bat (and half of the time, they are in cahoots with the Republicans' racist and elitist agenda). We especially need progressive groups on campuses for Minority students. As a current college...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I have dated older women, but too many seem to be trying to 'beat the clock'..the biological clock that is. I'm a very picky dater. As I get older, my motivation of meetind scores of women have gone down. I am currently dating and I can honestly say that if she hadn't approached me, we wouldn't be dating at all
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
My thoughts are this........you get, what you are. I've noticed that most men are afraid to approach me........especially thugs, etc. I can only assume, that "ray ray".......understands that im not the one he should deal with. (I dont know why and i dont care.....im just happy). ..........And believe it or not, this happens to a lot of women. So when we speak about thugs, playas...etc, im confused because i really dont interact with these type of men. They dislike me.......and for that im ...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
It's only a battle if we make it one, some of the things people are saying (on either side)are purposefully inflamatory, and it doesn't have to be that way. It takes (at least)two to argue.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
I think we know the tricks and games of our own gender in more detail. For example, I am usually a better judge of character when it comes to the women my male friends/relatives are dating than they are. Some people are obvious, but there are often times when I have pegged a girl for being a gold digger or 'ho' or just plain coniving way before they have a clue.
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

Empty Purnata ·
Oh, now I get it. In comparison to other middle class communities of other races, unfortunately the Black Middle Class seems to be busy trying to emmulate the White Middle Class. A community of selfish, over-privileged "rugged individualists" with that tired old "conservative Protestant work ethic" of "everyone pull yourself up by your own bootstraps". Pesonally, I think African-Americans need to get away from this "middleclassness" mentality. We should be concerned about improving our...
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Re: King Kong, The Movie

Ms_secondhalf ·
I thought this movie was beyond silly... and I'm sorry, but I don't see the 'emasculated black man' thing. I understand the concept but I'm not sure I buy into it. We have to deal with far more overt manifestations of racism than those found in a movie. It's just a movie, folks.... Be that as it may, on with my review: The actors were fine -- I'm a fan of both Naomi Watts and Jack Black. But the film was wayyy over the top. The scene with the giant insects was totally unnecessary; the scenes...
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

MBM ·
To be clear - the point that I am trying to illustrate is that Con Feed's rants about the problems of black culture are really a result of classism and poverty in America that transcend race. Since we know that the white middle class has declined over recent years, if the black middle class has increased or decreased at a smaller rate than the white middle class - then whatever issues CF has with black people can be attributed to the effects that ALL middle/working/poor Americans suffer from...
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Re: I didn't know God was republican

Isome ·
*sssssssssshhhhh* We must never speak of it again!
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Max ·
It's really difficult to determine what women are attracted to. True story: I was on the bus. This fine-looking Puerto-Rican girl came on; she had these large, seductive, blue eyes; voluptuous - full luscious tits, big round hips and an ass to match. ABSOLUTELY STUNNING. So,as she walks down the aisle, we make eye-contact. I smiled at her. And she? She rolled eyes-clearly annoyed, as if to say: "nigga PUH-LEEEEAAASE...don't even think about!!" Now, I admit, I'm never gonna make the cover of...
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Re: Sago Mine Explosion - Another Bushco Production?

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
Isome: Do you get paid by someone to do what you do? Do you see any particular benefit that is translated to the people that you are concerned about based on what you do? How much money do you figure that SENATOR Robert KKK Byrd has received from these same companies? You see if you were OBJECTIVE (and we all know the deal) you would inspect the donations to Byrd as well. You would also attempt to place this ONE INCIDENT into the CONTEXT of the general condition of safety of the industry.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Ms_secondhalf ·
"Women think with their vaginas"???? Puh-leeeeeeeze.... YOUNG women, maybe... who tragically, mistakenly think they don't have anything else to offer. Women with sense (and class) do NOT think this way AT ALL. Clearly, the author has unresolved issues, no doubt fueled by chasing some woman who didn't give him the time of day after he had his way with her and bought her groceries. My brother once remarked that men are basically uncomplicated: "We want food, football and sex, sis. Sometimes...
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
MBM: I am really flattered at the being the basis for so many of your posts. I figured that by now you could at least represent my position more correctly. Founding Premise: Some people reside inside of a system that organizes resources and creates wealth. Some people reside outside of such a system. The challenge is to CREATE a system that generates wealth and a high standard of living for the people that are of interest to you balancing this demand with other values that are important to...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
Max, dont you realize the 'look' on your face..........could've turned her off?? Sorry, but the way you sound........you were drooling like a dog in heat. When i see a man behave this way.........i think hes all about the booty, and nothing else. Ms_secondhalf... "S-EX as a S hared EX perience. I LOVED that description! It's something we should do for each other." I loved this too!!!!
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Re: Reparations and Poor Whites

MBM ·
Sorry, I didn't communicate the point well enough. It's not just that poverty exists, its that because America utilized slavery, it denied poor and working class whites the opportunity to feed their families, earn income, and build wealth. Absent slavery there still would have been an American economy. America would have had to pay the poor and working class folks here. If we can acknowledge a connectivity between the wrong committed to slaves and their descendents today, is it also not...
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

Kevin41 ·
CF...do me a favor and post my quote when you speak on my behalf..and all that bullschit you are saying this morning is obvious..black people have been moving forward and upward for years...but it is funny to watch blkCONS speak in a vainglorious manner then aid white racist right-wingers in decreasing black opportunity. The reality of it is that black people should never have gotten involved with any issue that adversely affect their own...so all the talk is just window dressing to...
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Re: Bush Selects Alito for Supreme Court

Kweli4Real ·
We can't let this important issue die. http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.ph...&address=132x2352250
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Re: King Kong, The Movie

Rowe ·
These so-called "just-a-movies" are making millions of dollars, thank you, which means lots of people are taking in this junk. You shouldn't have such a cavelier attitude about this.
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Re: Sago Mine Explosion - Another Bushco Production?

Isome ·
... that would be very bad!! We mustn't talk about political appointments, policy trends and budget cuts that make a bad situation worse. Why that would be NOT putting individual instances into context... By the time the International Labor Organization's Convention 176 was signed: ... mining deaths dropped from 425 in 1970 to 85 in 2000 . And, for gawwd's sake don't click the links (even ones provided by the black-faced lackeys), because they provide that CONTEXT... and we wouldn't want that.
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God

Melesi ·
Sometimes the two concepts confused in this discussion (not this one specifically but this issue) is linguistic gender and biological sex. One cannot argue from the first to the second. A very funny treatment of this and several other like issues in language can be found in Mark Twain's essay "The Awful German Language." Seriously, however, in languages where every noun is assigned a gender (which is most of them. Interestingly, English has rid itself of almost all gender-references, and yet...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God

HonestBrother ·
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

MidLifeMan ·
Silly Question but what does this mean and why? What if his goal is to do a honest day's work, take care of his home, wife, and children to the best of his abilities? This sounds a little like the phrase "I'll date a man with potential". I HATE that phrase. To me the person is saying, "I really don't accept you as you are but will if you become what I think you can become". Maybe that's why families and children are such a mess these days. Everyone feels that they have to "be" somebody. If...
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Re: calling all fASHIONista men!!

MidLifeMan ·
What are "fashion" trends for men anyway. What can you really do? Aren't most of these "makeover" shows for women/white people. Is'n most fashion for women? If you're not stuck in a teenage mind set like some black men (like my 53 year old brother) where all you know to wear is sports jersys, timberland boot and tennis shoes etc. I mean we have suites - black, blue, tan, gray. We have sports coats and pants. Dress shirts and ties... I have to admit I do like my old school converse - low top ...
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