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Re: calling all fASHIONista men!!

folobatuyi ·
\ Yeah, Rowe...sorry to disappoint you but I am that one guy you described...I am a nerd...fashion is less of a neccessity to me...there are many other things on my mind...on a regular day...it is a shirt, tie and pair of dress slacks for residency and a pair of jeans when I get home and on weekends.
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Re: calling all fASHIONista men!!

Rowe ·
That's interesting because I was watching an old episode of Dave Chapelle the other night, and his musical guest was "Big Boi," one of the group members of the popular rap group, Outkast. He was wearing an outfit that was very similiar to the White dude's outfit that I described earlier in the discussion. But instead, the artist Big Boi wore a black velvet blazer with padded elbows, crisp white shirt, relaxed jeans, etc. Is Big Boi "gay?" I also spotted Will Smith wearing a velvet blazer...
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Re: The Middle Passage

Fine ·
Unique we are...so much so that Europe is a civilization as a result of African mindset and not the other way around...!
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Re: calling all fASHIONista men!!

AudioGuy ·
There you go again, putting words in my mouth... You seem to forget that I live in D.C. and I have worked in the entertainment industry for 20+ yrs. I KNOW gay when I see/hear it... and the guy you described is gay or he definetely wants to be... The men that you described do not pick their own clothes, their "fashions" are usually picked by gay males... And I do not work "outside" of the entertainment industry... Sheeee's Back!!!
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Re: Calling white guys 'brotha'...?

FireFly ·
thanks for a good laugh!!
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Michael ·
.....be it Democrat, Republican, Independent, Green Party, or otherwise..... .....the Black community is being looked upon as being insignificant, perverted, criminal, sleazy, wreckless, backwards, un-American, treasonous, self destructive, poverty stricken, social welfare dependent, bigotted, lazy, hateful, uncaring, selfish, useless, begging, continuously playing the race card, etc., ...... ......an outlook that has more to do with a ethnic group's financial status, holdings, consumer...
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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

RadioRaheem ·
Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
how old is your friend? If she is over 30, then it sounds like she is taking the best deal on the table. I'm from the MD area, educated in DC[Georgetown U], returned to DC after grad school and have found that black women are the least approachable women of the all. Many DC black men agree with me on this. That's why there are so many mixed couples in the surrounding areas, i.e. Northern VA, PG County, Gaitherburg MD, Bethesda MD, and Silver Spring MD...have you ever been to Georgetown??
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
you wont get that admission here, not in the 'sista's spot'
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Kevin41 ·
I wonder why there is sooo much laughter when the guy speaks.....I guess it is hard to take a tom serious....when you know their first and foremost motive is to defend the stats quo and their white masters....I thought the term conservative idiot applied here......... My dad's barbershop ...byLarry Elder and personal responsibility -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: December 29, 2005 1:00 a.m. Eastern Editor's note: The following column...
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Re: Why are we comfortable with Euro-paganism and not African?

Oshun Auset ·
That hit's to the core of my point on this thread... BTW I like your contributions to the forum. Honest Brother you are! Don't even get me started about who is at most of the Reaggae and Continental African musical concerts I go to... Besides the Carribean and continental born Africans of course...Those of us born in the states are beyond low in attendence! It's a damn shame!
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
Based upon the onus you place on their backs, why do you call them "victims"? Please explain. A woman has been repeatedly abused by her husband over the years. She walks into the police station, finally, seeking protection and relief. CF looks at her and says, "What are you prepared to do to change to help your situation?" First of all - she has taken the first step and is at the damned police station. Second of all, that she has survived as long as she has is a testament to her personal...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

detroit1 ·
I'm sick and tired of hearing black women dog out their ex-boyfriends who were worthless, unemployed crack-heads totally ignoring the fact that he was in that same position when she "chose" to be involved with him. Ain't nobody tell her to find her man in the alley......then take him home, feed him, cloth him and buy him a playstation. These same women will also defend their bum-ass boyfriends if you say something bad about him; then turn around and hate on brothas who have themselves...
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Re: Aborigines target sudanese refugees

FireFly ·
thanks for this... I haven't been reading newspapers the past week so it's news to me. One thing though, Toowoomba is in Queensland and Balga is in Western Australia. If you look at a map of Australia you'll see we are a h-u-g-e continent and these places are very far apart. And very different. On a positive note, most people feel this way: "Ms Maasakker said the Sudanese had added another dimension to Toowoomba, and made the town more cosmopolitan." and also this way... "Mr Farrell said the...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Frenchy ·
Well, just accept that Black women will not change and therefore Black men need to take responsibility for that and change to accomodate that. If Black men did not date these women who were Stuck On Stupid amd clueless, they would not be that way. They should not be expected to do those things of their own free will. Pre-1970, Black men did not seek out and put up with women who were clueless or unappreciative of their achievements. Sure Black women could chose to act responsibly and/or...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Empty Purnata ·
[Sarcasm] Don't you know, MBM? Pregnancy is God's punishment against women for being whores and sluts! We shouldn't allow for women to have choices over their bodies, God wants men to use the righteous arm of law to decide things for wimmin. They don't need no help once the babies are born. Being single mothers in poverty is God's punishment on them for being loose. [/End Sarcasm]
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
Folobatuyi, yes women should be held accountable for their actions as well........its just that i find that women are being held to a much higher standard than most men..........which to me is not fair. RadioRaheem......you seem to have a dislike for women in their 30's........and im going to assume youre in your 30's, and not married, etc. (if this is not true, then i apologize). But my question is........what makes you any different, than a woman in her 30's?
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Michael ·
"I wonder how many Black people really give a schit about how they are LOOKED at ..." by Kevin41 "I wonder why there is sooo much laughter when the guy speaks.....I guess it is hard to take a tom serious .... when you know their first and foremost motive is to defend the stats quo and their white masters ....I thought the term conservative idiot applied here........." by Kevin41 ************************** ".....be it Democrat, Republican, Independent, Green Party, or otherwise..... ..... the...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

MidLifeMan ·
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides. One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return". I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in. And then you...
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

nayo ·
ROTFLMAO!!!! p.s. I almost, fell for the Elder 'okidoke', until I heard his response to an African American woman (on his recently cancelled television show), who was opining about racism in the U.S. He asked her, why did'nt she just go 'back' to Africa if the racism was so bad here!! I could'nt believe it.
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Re: Why are we comfortable with Euro-paganism and not African?

HonestBrother ·
You are so kind You're not kidding. I went to a Reggae festival a few months ago and guess what the dominant hue was...
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

Nmaginate ·
One thing to note here and in other situations when CONservatives like to speak with some perversed order in their imagined Moral Court... (like HiREZ in CON-Feed's "CONCUSSED Liberal?" quoted thread)... they claim some moral victory not by how they displayed a more reasonable or superior position to their vocational or intellectual/academic equal... they(he) tries to project a victory over men who cut hair for a living and engage in talk about life, politics and racism as a leisure type of...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
Personally, I believe there is some truth to this...especially the part where the author advised men to "never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she actually does instead." I would modify that to say that as a guy, one should not only hear or listen to what a woman says but also observe and keep note on what she does...much more telling and true. As to the role of money and the need for sex as items of attraction women see in men...both are factors but I think it is...
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Re: 2005--In Loving Memory Of....

Fine ·
Thx folobatuyi and HonestBrother. LOL--I have a revision: AITKEN, LAUREL/78 -- JAMAICAN SINGER BENNETT-SATTLER, JUDITH/54 -- ABUSE AGENCY LEADER BAIRD, HARRY/74 -- BRITISH ACTOR BAUGH, CECIL/96 -- JAMAICAN POTTER BENSON, RENALDO "OBIE"/69 -- MEMBER OF THE FOUR TOPS GROUP BENTLEY, LAMONT/31 -- ACTOR BERESFORD, RANDOLPH/91 -- BRITISH MAYOR OF HAMMERSMITH AND FULHAM BROWN JR., OSCAR/78 -- SINGER/SONWRITER/ACTOR/PLAYWRIGHT CAMPBELL, LITTLE MILTON/70 -- BLUES ARTIST CARGILLE, PETER/41 -- JAMAICAN...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
I guess both men/women can only see their side of things...because of experiences. But i have issues with those that 'want' more than they 'are'. As Sweetwuzzy mentioned..... "Some Sisters suffer from low self-esteem. Society, relationship experts say, teaches that Black women are the lowest on the social scale--what Zora Neale Hurston calls "mules of the world." "Men have a much higher self-esteem," says Moore. "They are taught not to settle. No matter how they look or what age they are,...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
I disagree with some parts of the article. One fact....women are talkers (sometimes we talk too much), so you pretty much know whats coming. Men do not talk........so you have to watch their actions, to figure out whats next. Also the part about college men, magnifying their status.......that may have been true, 10yrs ago, but not now. (well not with women that are educated, and making more money). I think now women want men, that are goal oriented........i dont care what it is, just 'be...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
it seems that black men and women are so into being angry with one another that it's no wonder they have a hard time getting together. it makes me sad, really. the brothers are saying hurtful things, the sisters are saying hurtful things. why don't we take some time to say something positive about each other for once? i'd love it if radio raheem, who started this thread would start by saying something nice about the ladies. alot of what brothers complain about seeing on this site from women...
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Re: Should Black People...

Faheem ·
I damn near fell out laughing while reading what Sister PowerFlower wrote; She writes that the brother wrote in his article; HAHA... a whistling Black man would be perceived as less threatening... I can just see Negroes walking around whistling trying to say to white folk, "I am a cool Negro not one of those violent ones". Imagine how psychologically warped a white person must be to believe a Black man whistling is not a threat. Some Negroes would tap dance every time they walk pass a white...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I started this thread because I thought that it provided women with some good dating advice. Honest. Soon this thread turned into, like other threads, a battleground for negativity. I backed away from this thread for that reason. As for posting something 'nice' for the ladies, i've found that no matter what I post, be it pictures of beautiful sisters, dating advice, honest perspectives from a single male's point of view, song lyrics/music video links, etc I get nothing but crapped on. It's...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

RadioRaheem ·
women are attracted to a mysterious man women are attracted to men that aren't pushovers women are attracted confident men these are the factors that are attractive to women...what was posted above are simply 'things that women WOULD LIKE' in a man, not what they are 'attracted' to.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

bigddouble ·
No objections from me minx - but I did notice that you DID NOT call on ANY sisters to say something positive about the men . I agree with RR (again) - there is no reason to be phony when we're here to give our perspectives.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
"Least approachable?" Can you elaborate on this? Do you mean to say that Black women in Washington, DC are the most intimidating? And if so, whhat do you find so intimidating about these women? Yes to both questions. And the reason why brothers in these two areas are often seen with "other women" is because, Adams Morgan, Georgetown especially, are multiracial areas. I shop in these areas and they are heavily populated with people from all races and ethnic groups. Because of its many...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
Good advice...I agree people need to break the 'creature of habit'. So many folks go to the exact same nightclubs, eatries, bars, etc. Break the cycle, try other places
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
I agree. So why can't we "be real" about Black men's situation in this country? When African-American women talk about how this state of affairs is impacting their lives, why can't you all respectfully acknowledge what you are hearing and reading? Whenever an African-American woman tells people about how the deterioration of her community is impacting her future, all she gets are expressions of disbelief and denial, followed by a list of general dating tips. Well Black women are not apart of...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
So if a lot Black women are having similiar dating experiences, what are we to conclude? Is poor dating experiences something that is unique to Black women? Are Black women just "bad daters?"
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
* I have no problems with reality {I actually prefer it to the self-boosting misinformation often floating about the Black community}, so long as those women acknowledge that they chose to date those guys all by themselves [cherry picked]. It was her choice to date/pursue Joe Thug and Ray-ray and thus it was her 'fault' when they let her down. If you sleep with dogs, you just might wake up with fleas and puppies!!! She also can't blame 'sane' black men that didn't appeal to her 'Ray-Ray'...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

Blacksanction ·
both need spankin. I do not accept laying all this at the feet of men and claiming women are naive and innocent of blame.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
"Male Shortage" vs. "Bad Choices" Sister Powerflower, since you just joined our discussed, I will provide a brief synopsis of what our seven page long thread has been about. The male posters are arguing that Black women are not having satisfying relationships because they make "bad choices." Women posters are arguing that if decent Black men were plentiful, then Black women would have more "better choices" from which to choose. Male posters are denying charges of there being a "male...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
I had read the thread, and posted before. I will tell you what I think about the question you posed, but I don't think all the men are saying that all Black women are naturally bad daters/decision makers. I think that people are getting all riled up when they disagree with what someone posts and then they respond emotionally. Hey, I do it too I don't think the original post was meant to be offensive. I think it was directed at women because it came from a magazine directed at women. I wasn't...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
i repeat: do men and women from other races hate each other this much or is it unique to black folks?
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

detroit1 ·
Yeah but some women are looking to draw sympathy from others for having to ordeal such a "horrible relationship". I don't buy it. The worst that a woman makes her ex out to sound, the worst it makes her look for staying with that person. And some women say "Preach to your brethren; maybe they'll listen"....What??? Huh???? Those cats got it too good. They don't have to do anything cause their damaged esteem girlfriend provides everything. They just have to make sure not to show her too much...
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Re: Shallow Friendships

Fine ·
I've been outside the box since junior high. Thanks, Staryeyenightess! I was sharing an epiphany. I never felt comfortable when they each told about their escapades with all those men. One day something told me to introduce them--cause they say the same things and seem so much alike. Bingo! I never felt excluded, I knew what I was doing as far as introducing them to each other. I know three is a crowd, so it was sort of an experiment....! One of the two said she didn't want to be friends...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
one of the reasons why the black man shortage myth is just that is because not all of the women in that 'ratio' are desireable or seeking positive men in their lives. Women are quick to eliminate men who are non-degreed, but never eliminate women with kids. Which is a 'harder' dating situation?? dating a degree-less man or dating a babymomma? I think the babymomma is harder because her kids must come first in her life and require a great deal of her time. Also, what if the kids don't like...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
My thoughts are this........you get, what you are. I've noticed that most men are afraid to approach me........especially thugs, etc. I can only assume, that "ray ray".......understands that im not the one he should deal with. (I dont know why and i dont care.....im just happy). ..........And believe it or not, this happens to a lot of women. So when we speak about thugs, playas...etc, im confused because i really dont interact with these type of men. They dislike me.......and for that im ...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
But not all of the men in that ratio are desireable or seeking positive women so it doesn't quite even out.
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

Empty Purnata ·
Black Middle Class vs. "American" Middle Class? What's "American"? "White"? Aren't African-Americans AMERICANS too?
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class

MBM ·
An aggreagate of all Americans versus African Americans.
 
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