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Re: Trapping a Man

RadioRaheem ·
1. I don't think it is a sign of a mental illness, just a reality check. Older women that desire motherhood have to do whatever it takes to get to that goal...and time is running out. 2. I think that older women have to 'fall in line' when it comes with their desire to be a wife and mom. I know from personal experiences in dating women well over 30 that marriage/child questions on a first or second date is a real downer!! But what choice does she really have? I mean if she is losing her...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Frenchy ·
Well, just accept that Black women will not change and therefore Black men need to take responsibility for that and change to accomodate that. If Black men did not date these women who were Stuck On Stupid amd clueless, they would not be that way. They should not be expected to do those things of their own free will. Pre-1970, Black men did not seek out and put up with women who were clueless or unappreciative of their achievements. Sure Black women could chose to act responsibly and/or...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

MidLifeMan ·
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides. One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return". I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in. And then you...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
* I have no problems with reality {I actually prefer it to the self-boosting misinformation often floating about the Black community}, so long as those women acknowledge that they chose to date those guys all by themselves [cherry picked]. It was her choice to date/pursue Joe Thug and Ray-ray and thus it was her 'fault' when they let her down. If you sleep with dogs, you just might wake up with fleas and puppies!!! She also can't blame 'sane' black men that didn't appeal to her 'Ray-Ray'...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I think other races [of women] do experiences it, but they seem to grow out of it[i.e. white women pursuing biker type guys, asian and hispanic women seeking out gangmembers, etc]. For Black women, I think, their problem stems from their decisions to have children with bad boy/thug. A choice which has a much longer attachment [a co-parent] than a lady saying 'when I was younger, I use to date gangmembers]. Choices..choices. Too many younger black women seem to operate from the stand point...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

MidLifeMan ·
Silly Question but what does this mean and why? What if his goal is to do a honest day's work, take care of his home, wife, and children to the best of his abilities? This sounds a little like the phrase "I'll date a man with potential". I HATE that phrase. To me the person is saying, "I really don't accept you as you are but will if you become what I think you can become". Maybe that's why families and children are such a mess these days. Everyone feels that they have to "be" somebody. If...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
You answered the question.... "What if his goal is to do a honest day's work, take care of his home, wife, and children to the best of his abilities?" This has nothing to do with his 'potential earnings', or what he does for a living (no matter what, i'll always have his back).......this has to do with the fact that he has an agenda, a purpose in life. He may not make a lot of money.......but hes doing the best that he can, treating me with love and respect...............thats really all i...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

FireFly ·
today everyone wants to be a celebrity. Not much of an aspiration. but who is consuming it, controlling it and making MOST of the money? MEN! Has always been and always will be unless women CHOOSE to offer more than just their sexuality. . .
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Black Viking ·
Anyone who believes that has never met my ex-wife. I think this has very little to do with whether a person chooses to date black or white. Dating is such a complicated mess anyway, often times it comes down to simple accessability. I have dated mostly white women in my life, mostly because those were the women that were around. I am the last person you will see passing up an good opportunity because that opportunity doesn't fit my perfect mental picture. I am far more interested in her...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Don't most people know that after a few months? I certainly do. Unless you mean to say that you should wait to until you are on the verge of getting married to this person before you introduce them to your child(ren). Which I don't agree with. What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy. And you certainly shouldn't...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I'm in total agreement with that point. It would seem silly to allow your child to show less respect to your date than you would allow them to show to a stranger.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Black Viking , wouldn't you want your children's input before you got engaged or too entangled in a relationship? IME, it's much more difficult for a child to think of their parent as single or casually dating and then BAM! all of a sudden they introduce you to their fiance. A child would think "Holy shit! Now I'm forced to like this woman. And why doesn't my dad even care what I think of her or what she thinks of me??" So, no kids of the first date but definitely before the proposal. That's...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I think you're right about that. But slow and cautious would be the best strategy. It can be just as much of a shock for the kids to get attached to your date, and then for them to be suddenly gone. You can build a relationship slowly, but break-ups tend to happen pretty fast.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Sandye ·
The article makes several good points, however, I think it sugarcoats the "baby mama/daddy drama" that affects many of these types of relationships. When a couple have a child, there is an eternal connection. Even though they no longer wish to have a relationship with the other parent, they play vicious games and can cause great pain perhaps because they are still going through the pain of their separation/divorce. Some biological parents won't speak to the step-parent for any reason and are...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

qty226 ·
This was good advice... Also Sandyes additions, gave much food for thought. Since im getting older, im realizing that a 'lot' of men have children........these are good points to consider prior to getting involved. Each situation is different.......so you have to pick and choose, when deciding to date someone that has children.
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Re: How many times do you ask a women out

Black Viking ·
One time and one time only. That goes for all aspects of the dance. I ask for the phone number once. Later, when I call to ask her out, if she says anything other than "yes" without making a genuine counter-offer, I throw the number away. If she breaks the date, I throw the number away. The reasons are simple. A women that is genuinely interested won't do these things. There are few greater wastes of time and energy than chasing after a lady who does not want to be caught.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
She's not to young to understand relationships. Someone just needs to have a talk with her and understand that it's not easy for the child. I don't know if most people know that the relationship is leading to marriage after only a few months. But I would think that the two people should have at least established if the relationship is exclusive. Once they reach that point then the child can start to be introduced to the other person. But I still think it should be in small doses. If and when...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

MidLifeMan ·
In and ideal world this would be true. I for one have not and would not date a white woman. But if that is what floats another man's boat then so be it. But as I said, we oversimplify the issue with the "it's all about love and finding someone to connect with blah, blah, blah. There are fare deeper issues – psychological and social - when looking at interracial relationships.
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Re: Bush, 'No Child Left Behind', and National Testing

Kweli4Real ·
But I would argue that the real travesty is that children are not being encouraged/taught to "connect the dots", to draw conclusions or extrapolate results from current data. I remember back in the day, my public school friends were asked on tests questions like, "On what date did the Spanish Armada sail?" This is not much different from the rote learning required under NCLB; Whereas, exams at my prep-school asked, "In 1588, the Spanish launched a naval attack on Endland. Discuss the likely...
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Re: Question for Kresge?

FireFly ·
thanks so much for your response kresge. Much appreciated You are always generous about sharing your knowledge and objective about your perspective. Some serious reading ahead. I hope I can respond with some degree of clarity at a later date. .
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Black Viking ·
I saw the show. It was very interesting to me because I'm bi-racial. The question that kept comming to me about that mother was, "How do you act white? Is there a specific way that white people act?" The mother also said she thought her daughter wasn't black enough. So, of course, similar questions present themselves,"How black is black enough? How does one portray blackness?" I think the mother's unaddressed problem is that her daughter is more than half-white. She has very Aryan features...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

qty226 ·
I think this is really good advice for those that date interracially.
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Re: Question for Kresge?

FireFly ·
hello Rowe, thanks for contributing. Yes, I agree with your comments immediately above. As it is I have always had a few 'issues' with Christianity and some of its concepts even though I was raised as a christian in my family but we 'won't go there'. I'm sure it's obvious I have a very limited education of world religions, and have been slowly reading up about all the 'alternatives'. I still find flaws but to date, the closest religion I find favour with has been Hinduism. African religions...
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Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?

Rowe ·
Um, it may have something to do with the fact that you are in the Issues/Politics forum? Politics, much like religion and racial matters are very controversial subjects. You will find people everywhere, not just Blacks in particular, who are divided on these issues. Therefore, trying to get members on the board to reach some sort of unified concensus is unrealistic, in my opinion. However, I think what you are noticing, as a new member, is an ongoing, rather hostile and verbally explicit...
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Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?

MBM ·
WHAT THE HECK WERE YOU DOING ON A DATE WITH CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK????? It serves you right girl!!
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Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
Rowe: I don't have the same views as your date. It is not about "working hard". PLENTY of people "work hard". For me it is about CULTURE and the PROCESS for achieving these cultural directives. Many Asian families have the concept of "Shame upon the family". This "pressure" is put upon the kids to have them act in line with some sort of principles and dignity as they conduct their lives. SURELY all of them do not abide by this all of the time but atleast it can serve as a course correction...
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Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?

HonestBrother ·
Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
EVEN MORE!! http://www.sptimes.com/2004/10/02/Floridian/More_responses_to__Do.shtml More responses to "Do Black Men Still Want Us?" Spirited comments about romantic options and worries Letters to the Editor Published October 2, 2004 Where is the love? A magazine asks whether black men still desire black women. Eight men offer their answers. Black women speak out Earlier this week, African-American men answered women's question "Do Black Men Still Want Us?' Now women discuss their romantic...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
My take on Part One:...in bold When elementary school teacher Patti Hairston picked up Monday's edition of the St. Petersburg Times, she braced herself. "I knew there would be negative things said about black women by black men," she said. very interesting, esp. since the writer of the original article was merely seeking the 'other side' of the Essence article. Lori Chung, 28, associate TV news producer, single, Brooklyn Personally, I don't feel the love from black men to black women and...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
My Take on part two..in bold http://www.sptimes.com/2004/10/02/Floridian/More_responses_to__Do.shtml Andre King Great article on the status of black man/woman relationships. I don't think that that is the end of the black man's opinion on this, however. Even though there were a variety of opinions on the subject, most of them seemed little more than simple preferences. And that is what I think all of this boils down to. If I were to date a woman of another race, I would date her because I...
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Re: MBM: WHERE'S THE UNIFICATION?

Rowe ·
It's interesting how you can meet someone who looks perfectly normal. It's not until you allow him or her to run their mouth do realize what a freak this person is.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
Nobody's saying you have to date an ugly or ignorant or disrepectful blue collar brother just because he's a brother . Likewise, a brother shouldn't feel compelled to date an unattractive (to him) sister just because of her education, wealth or career . What we are saying is that a person (man or woman) not having a "professional" job, does not make them less qualified to be a good mate. A college degree is not THE gold standard for intelligence. Ultimately, I think you have to go where your...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

HonestBrother ·
I was once a janitor but am neither hump backed nor buck toothed, I don't know too many brothas that date anyone looking remotely like Halle Berry (much less Beyonce), and I don't have a problem with 200 lb chicks...Now the 300 lb chicks is another subject.... Are ya'll sure that the outbreak of brothas dating Beyonce look-alikes isn't a figment of your collective imagination? What a man lusts after and claims he wants is not necessarily what he dates or actually desires. Let's not argue...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
Frenchy - There were three posts after qty226's response before yours. Which one touted a double standard? Here's mine again: Where's the double standard? There was no scolding. If you set looks aside, how do you know that a blue collar or non-degreed person can't be a good mate for you? Note there have been very few discussions about people's physical preferences, outside of Rowe. We are talking about personality traits. If you know that common ratio of women to men is 10 to 1 on college...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
We're speaking the same langauge, you're just reading & comprehending in another one! Reread this portion: We're not talking about men wanting Halle or women wanting Denzel. Look around at couples next time you go out - how many men are "Denzel" & how many women are "Halle"? Most of us date & marry the "everywoman" too. What many of the men here have told you is this: We don't care about a woman's career when choosing a mate We don't care about a woman's degrees when choosing a...
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Re: Nick Cannon "I'm addicted to white women"

Empty Purnata ·
I mean, I don't see what's so what about White women. They're just women to me. GIVE ME A SISTA ANY DAY OF THE WEEK!! White women are not better than Black women or vice versa (although personally, I prefer Black women over White women). I don't mean to sound racist, but I'd have to say, if Black men do date out, I think they should at least stick with non-White women. Like Hispanic women and Asian women at least.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
For God's Sake! Denzel and Halle are only examples. The double standard plays out in normal everyday life! "What makes you think you deserve to date an attractive attorney?" "That's what you get for dating a 'pretty boy'?" "Who wouldn't choose the girl with the big butt over the brainiac? It's only natural to go after what is visually appealing!" Etc. This is NOT about specifically dating Denzels and Halles. This is NOT about lowering dating expectations. It's not about speicifcally dating...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

HonestBrother ·
Frenchy, I think I hear ya. But the "attractive attorney" or "doctor" and the "pretty boy" may be just other versions of "Denzel": widespread cultural ideals of what we're "supposed to want". I don't ever hear people setting their sights for the attractive engineer or mathematician or dentist. Much less the ambitious and intelligent young janitor. And I love Brainiacs - especially if they're cute - notice I said "cute" - not necessarily "fine"....
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
It's like I said. Women are scolded when we voice that intention. We get a lecture on the merits of the janitor and how we need to look in that direction instead and stop being so shallow and "this is why you guys are single" and "what makes you think you deserve to date one of those guys" and blahblahblah.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
Nobody has said that - that's what you keep projecting into this discussion. Along with insisting that men only define their ideal mates by the physical. Your choice of words ("cream of the crop") is also telling. But I guess I'm being sexist or just shelling out more dating advice, right? I (and the other guys) couldn't possibly have valid points - we're too busy being sexist, right? Though you make it very, very hard ... Still with
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Re: Nick Cannon "I'm addicted to white women"

Black Viking ·
Why? If you going outside, then your going outside . Why avoid white women specifically?
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Re: Nick Cannon "I'm addicted to white women"

Huey ·
I guess what EP's saying is that if you're dating Asian and Hispanic women, the looks aren't as harsh as when dating a white female. Plus, when I dated an East Indian woman, I haven't come across any Hispanic, Indian or Asian Klansmen so far.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

AudioGuy ·
*I know I'm gonna "catch it" for this, but...* I think that by virtue of the fact that there more women than there are men, limits the choices of women severely... If a woman is then "holding out" for a "Denzel the doctor" does that really make sense?? I also think, based upon my observation - however limited it may be, that a man will date/marry a woman regardless of her station in life... she could be working on the fryer at Mickey D's, but if she's cute she has almost as good a shot at...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
Honest & AG - The three of us have said the same thing to the ladies. No one is denying fantasy. But the reality is that everyone can't be a high social status, high income, buff, male idol. Please substitute the female analogues for those of you that still haven't realized I'm speaking about men & women. This means, somebody has to date & marry the "every Jane/Joes". Men have an easier time, IMO, accepting this fact. I'm glad my mom wasn't such an elitest. Otherwise, I might not...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
This is NOT the point, AG. No one is encouraging women to date only a Denzel. No one is saying Denzels are the only quality men. No one is saying that we want the right to hold out for a Denzel. WOMEN SHOULD HAVE THE OPTION OF STRIVING FOR A "DENZEL" WITHOUT HEARING A BUNCH OF FRIGGIN LIP ABOUT HOW WE NEED TO REFOCUS/REVISE/RETHINK BECAUSE WE DON'T DESERVE IT OR BECAUSE WE'RE NOT GIVING THE "LOWER-RUNG" OF BROTHAS A CHANCE OR WHATEVER OTHER REASON. The same way that men can strive for the...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
I'm not waffling. I've been saying the same thing repeatedly. You are just not trying to read what is written. Neither. *Sigh* Black women deserve to be able to consider the "cream of the crop" as a viable dating and marriage option without being lectured about lowering standards/"being more realistic"/etc. I've broken it down into scenarios before, but apparently no one reads them or you can't see past the word "Denzel" without going off on a tangent. Last time. Scenario A Man: I want to...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

HonestBrother ·
Numbers don't mean a thing to me when I'm single as hell... as evidenced by the fact that I'm here typing this rather than doing something else. Numbers mean nada. Whatever...I've never heard this coming from anywhere... I don't have a clue as to what you're talking about. And stand by this statement. Because if you actually read what I wrote NO it doesn't fit the scenario you gave.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Black Viking ·
I can't add anymore to this argument, but I think this should be repeated as many times as necessary.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

FireFly ·
isn't this saying let's ditch classism, but it's OK to discriminate on looks? Like I said... for some men the booty calls before anything else ! And it could be argued that it implies... who gives a fck about her brain as long as she's a good fck.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Huey ·
DING! DING! DING! We have a winner!!
 
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