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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: Sistah Souljah
No? ooops! I must have connected-the-dots myself and thought we'd had a conversation about it. .
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show
The first time I heard Erykah Badu was in the wee hours of the morning on the overnight radio show they played her first single "On & On" and my boyfriend at the time woke me up to listen to it. After that I kept hearing the song but didn't know who sang it. Then I was home from college on some break (I think Thanksgiving or Winter Break) and she was on BET with Big Les (remember her?) and they were at her house. It didn't even seem like an interview it was just like watching a visit to...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
Young people make many mistakes. When I was in high school all the guys really went for the homecoming queen/prom queen types. How many of the most popular girls in your high schools are now sitting at home or in some dead end job with way to many kids by a bunch of different guys and/or on drugs? And what about the most popular guys? They are a lot of times, on drugs, in and out of jail, unstable, and that's if they're still alive. What's cool when you're young is often not what's cool when...
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show
Check out India.arie. She puts on a helluva show too; she even put her gitaur down for a while and played the flute.
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Re: Why do souls come to Earth?
I don't believe in eternal souls, I believe that souls are impermanent essences. My view of the soul is similar to that of a Buddhist, or Aristotle's view on the soul: http://www.answers.com/topic/soul Jesus did not teach that souls are immortal, seperate, wraithly persons either: Jesus taught that the Kingdom of Heaven is not "here or there", but that is "within you". I believe that Jesus' "Kingdome of Heaven" may have been a metaphor stressing something along the lines of...
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Re: Shallow Friendships
You're much better off, Fine ! Who wants to force their way back into a friendship?? When you feel they're squeezing you out, you just gotta bow out gracefully and move on (and pat yourself on the back for avoiding a shitload of drama and backstabbing). C'est la vie!
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Re: Should Black People...
Yes, Black people should put white people's fears at ease. Instead of letting the poor white man suffer through an entire train ride, watching you and clutching his bag, just rob him blind as soon as you get on the train so you both can relax. Etc. None of us are easily separated from our misconceptions and stereotypes. If I spot a white man wearing dark clothing and a shaved head with tattoos on his body... he's a skinhead. If he doesn't attack me, he is a skinhead in a particularly...
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Re: Should Black People...
Frenchy None of us are easily separated from our misconceptions and stereotypes. If I spot a white man wearing dark clothing and a shaved head with tattoos on his body... he's a skinhead. If he doesn't attack me, he is a skinhead in a particularly generous mood. He is not going to do or say anything to put me at complete ease. I presume the opposite is also true. ___________________________________________________ This is so true. The important thing is not to embarass the other person by...
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Re: Should Black People...
Speak for yourself. On that skinhead thing... That's you and only you until ALL OF US say that is us.
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Re: Should Black People...
The context was how we behave in public in general, getting on an elevator, entering a building, walking down the street, etc. As far as commerce is concerned, an good business person should have good customer service skills period. As a business person, if the clients you want are multi-racial then you need to cater to them so that you can get their business. That means treating them with respect, in certain cases trying to anticipate their desires, etc. That goes for Black and White and...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
I had read the thread, and posted before. I will tell you what I think about the question you posed, but I don't think all the men are saying that all Black women are naturally bad daters/decision makers. I think that people are getting all riled up when they disagree with what someone posts and then they respond emotionally. Hey, I do it too I don't think the original post was meant to be offensive. I think it was directed at women because it came from a magazine directed at women. I wasn't...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
Yeah but some women are looking to draw sympathy from others for having to ordeal such a "horrible relationship". I don't buy it. The worst that a woman makes her ex out to sound, the worst it makes her look for staying with that person. And some women say "Preach to your brethren; maybe they'll listen"....What??? Huh???? Those cats got it too good. They don't have to do anything cause their damaged esteem girlfriend provides everything. They just have to make sure not to show her too much...
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Re: Should Black People...
CF's attitude towards Black Business dealing with White Business reminds me of Malcolm X's attitude towards White people in a scene of the movie "Malcolm X" with Denzel Washington. Malcolm X (still "Malcolm Little" at the time) was a teenager/young adult working on a train as a waiter having to serve White passengers. He walked around carrying food trays with a big smile on his face calling out what food he was carrying. A White navyman (this was shortly after WWII) asks for some food, and...
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)
I don't understand this, but anyhoo... I wanted to ask you to share with us some dating tips for guys from a gay perspective? It is dating tips for guys, and I'd love to hear how gay guys approach dating. Thanks.
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Re: Shallow Friendships
I've been outside the box since junior high. Thanks, Staryeyenightess! I was sharing an epiphany. I never felt comfortable when they each told about their escapades with all those men. One day something told me to introduce them--cause they say the same things and seem so much alike. Bingo! I never felt excluded, I knew what I was doing as far as introducing them to each other. I know three is a crowd, so it was sort of an experiment....! One of the two said she didn't want to be friends...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
I think other races [of women] do experiences it, but they seem to grow out of it[i.e. white women pursuing biker type guys, asian and hispanic women seeking out gangmembers, etc]. For Black women, I think, their problem stems from their decisions to have children with bad boy/thug. A choice which has a much longer attachment [a co-parent] than a lady saying 'when I was younger, I use to date gangmembers]. Choices..choices. Too many younger black women seem to operate from the stand point...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
one of the reasons why the black man shortage myth is just that is because not all of the women in that 'ratio' are desireable or seeking positive men in their lives. Women are quick to eliminate men who are non-degreed, but never eliminate women with kids. Which is a 'harder' dating situation?? dating a degree-less man or dating a babymomma? I think the babymomma is harder because her kids must come first in her life and require a great deal of her time. Also, what if the kids don't like...
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Re: How The Bush Administration Hurts The Black Community
Man shut up with that self-importantce bullschit this morning Lofton..no one gives a fuck about what you think or your weird azz writing style you picked up from the ward....you're the joke Lofton...you grew up to be someone so alienated from your own that you seek out white racists for affiliation...now talking about jokes....do you really think those hateful azz inbreds at stormfront take you seriously? hell no...you're like ward coonerly and the rest....racists find you useful to help...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One
But not all of the men in that ratio are desireable or seeking positive women so it doesn't quite even out.
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Re: **Constantine: The Father of Christianity[With Just A Hint of Paganism!]??**
LOL! "Saint" Augustine used to be a Manichean before he became a "Christian" around 400 C.E. He was a Manichean Gnostic (who are influenced by Zoroastrianism) and kept much of his Manichean theology and tried to tie it into Christianity. The doctrines of: Corruption of the Physical Body, Innate Powerlessness, Eternal Salvation, Eternal Damnation, Defilement of Women, Pisticity (Faith-Onlyness) and disdain of spiritual knowledge, Classical Theism (God seperate from Self), Satan (God of...
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class
To be clear - the point that I am trying to illustrate is that Con Feed's rants about the problems of black culture are really a result of classism and poverty in America that transcend race. Since we know that the white middle class has declined over recent years, if the black middle class has increased or decreased at a smaller rate than the white middle class - then whatever issues CF has with black people can be attributed to the effects that ALL middle/working/poor Americans suffer from...
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Re: I didn't know God was republican
Shsh! The White people will hear you. They might find out He's not White either. Oh my God! He might not be a He. umbra
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class
MBM: I am really flattered at the being the basis for so many of your posts. I figured that by now you could at least represent my position more correctly. Founding Premise: Some people reside inside of a system that organizes resources and creates wealth. Some people reside outside of such a system. The challenge is to CREATE a system that generates wealth and a high standard of living for the people that are of interest to you balancing this demand with other values that are important to...
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Re: Reparations and Poor Whites
Sorry, I didn't communicate the point well enough. It's not just that poverty exists, its that because America utilized slavery, it denied poor and working class whites the opportunity to feed their families, earn income, and build wealth. Absent slavery there still would have been an American economy. America would have had to pay the poor and working class folks here. If we can acknowledge a connectivity between the wrong committed to slaves and their descendents today, is it also not...
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Re: Reparations and Poor Whites
To quantify it, if slave reparations are awarded in the amount of, say, $50 trillion - representing the unpaid wages from the slavery era compounded with interest, couldn't poor/working class whites also make a claim for that amount since they would have been the ones to earn those wages had not slaves been imported to do "their" jobs? I'm trying to explore what others think about the point. Is it valid and logical? As well, I'm interested in the implications of this. Does acknowledging this...
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Re: Black Middle Class vs. American Middle Class
CF...do me a favor and post my quote when you speak on my behalf..and all that bullschit you are saying this morning is obvious..black people have been moving forward and upward for years...but it is funny to watch blkCONS speak in a vainglorious manner then aid white racist right-wingers in decreasing black opportunity. The reality of it is that black people should never have gotten involved with any issue that adversely affect their own...so all the talk is just window dressing to...
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Re: Bush Selects Alito for Supreme Court
We can't let this important issue die. http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.ph...&address=132x2352250
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
You may also want to look at references in the Hebrew tradition for the Shekinah. It means the radiance or glory of God amongst God's people, and it is traditionally understood as feminine as well. Further, for you comparativist out there, some people see parallels between Shekinah and shakti , the feminine energy or force associated with Hindu deities. Most of the scholarship I am familiar with would suggest that this understanding of God more closely parallels the Christian notion of the...
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Re: King Kong, The Movie
The black character called "Hayes" was thrown in to the movie to "balance" the scences of so-called "the blood-thirsty savages".
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Re: King Kong, The Movie
I told you it was some mess. I don't know why, considering indigeous groups are becoming more "Americanized" than Americans, White film directors continue to portray them in this way. They are racist, that's why. You should have took your money and spent it on something to eat.
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
Sometimes the two concepts confused in this discussion (not this one specifically but this issue) is linguistic gender and biological sex. One cannot argue from the first to the second. A very funny treatment of this and several other like issues in language can be found in Mark Twain's essay "The Awful German Language." Seriously, however, in languages where every noun is assigned a gender (which is most of them. Interestingly, English has rid itself of almost all gender-references, and yet...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
Translation: I fail to see what's so funny here bucko so if you have an intelligent argument, which I doubt, present it. I know I spoke out of both sides of my mouth but I can do that.
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Re: RIP "Love is a Hurtin' Thing
A great man with a bunch of dignity in the product that he put out for all of the world to consume. Where have all of the Lou Rawls' gone today?
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?
Silly Question but what does this mean and why? What if his goal is to do a honest day's work, take care of his home, wife, and children to the best of his abilities? This sounds a little like the phrase "I'll date a man with potential". I HATE that phrase. To me the person is saying, "I really don't accept you as you are but will if you become what I think you can become". Maybe that's why families and children are such a mess these days. Everyone feels that they have to "be" somebody. If...
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)
Oversimplified and nothing new. Think Positive? Most men have found out one of life's little secrets – women like confident men. But when constantly faced with dealing with rejection, how long before chinks in the armor start to show. Men have self esteem issues also. I personally think that many of those that appear to have great self confidence i.e. I'm a pimp/player mentality are masking low self esteem issues. I remember a singles network event where a woman shared that she decided that...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?
There are a million reasons why she reacted, to you just nodding and smiling. But it seems to me, that you really liked her.....and because of this, maybe you should've taken the opportunity to chat, and find out what the deal was. (It couldnt hurt, right?) I've been in a similar situation, room full of people.....i smile at a guy, he turns his head..........only to be in my face an hour later. I put him on ignore........and moved on, because he really didnt leave a lasting impression. Out...
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Re: Sago Mine Explosion - Another Bushco Production?
CF...you cannot even stay within the confines of coherent thought.....and yes you are the great white defender....but before you put things in your racial context......what do you think my take is on ward coonerly or clarence thomas? you think they get a pass from me because of their race? Go back and read what I think of em....and then come back and tell me what I said is based entirely on race.....you say allot of stupid shit CF...but hey, how many times do you find that out on a daily...
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Re: Should Black People...
The Constitution grants us the right to Life, Liberty, and the Persuit of Happiness. No one has a right to be confortable. Comfort is a privilege. Privileges are earned.
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Re: Bush Admits Faulty Iraq Intel
Al Qaeda No. 2: Bush must admit defeat in Iraq (CNN) -- An Arabic language news network has aired a video of al Qaeda leader Osama bin Laden's top lieutenant, in which he called on U.S. President George W. Bush to admit defeat in Iraq. Al-Jazeera said the video, which is about a minute long, was made in December. According to CNN's translation of the video, Ayman al-Zawahiri offers his condolences to Pakistan for the October 8 earthquake before congratulating fellow Muslims for what he says...
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Re: Are You Afraid To Die?
I'm a Taoist as well. Some wise man whose name I can't recall said "It's the how of living that matters, not the how long." That being said, my own death doesn't scare me. What scares me is losing one of my loved ones before I'm ready to lose them. I don't think we miss the world when we die, but there is a good chance that the world misses us. As far as my passing, I could care less when I die, so long as I die well. Another wise man whose name I can't remember said "There are only two ways...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God
Melesi, no one hates you. I don't hate you. I merely find talking with you wearisome because you have an unmatched talent for talking out of both sides of your mouth.