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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

RadioRaheem ·
i'll try to let it burn, but I must admit I love to battle the haters here too Happy New Year!!!
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
At the end of either process the Black baby is................? 1) Alive because "We know not the womb that holds the king"? or 2) Disposed of? Problem solved. **** Nick Cannon - "Can I Live?" Good thing HIS mother didn't express her "choice" http://www.nickcannonmusic.com/caniliveqt.html
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Re: Are You Afraid To Die?

Sandye ·
I am not afraid to die at all. I do think about the grief that my family will feel when I am no longer physically present with them. I think of death as transitional as I believe spirits to be eternal. My beloved Father is no longer on this earth, but I feel his presence with me and feel his love for me in my heart.
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

folobatuyi ·
Thanks Rowe....
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

Nmaginate ·
With all those types of appearances, with those types of associations, being published in those types of places... Then a Negro has the nerves to beg "Can WE BLACKS (Damn!!! Mimicking that too!@) disagree and ya'll not consider my buck dancin' ass a Sell-Out (though I'm getting paid for nefarious services) and/or an Uncle Tom?" But, just as the Black CONservatives seem to love to suggest themselves, maybe this has a lot to do with the parenting and upbringing Larry Elder got. His Talk Radio...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
it seems that black men and women are so into being angry with one another that it's no wonder they have a hard time getting together. it makes me sad, really. the brothers are saying hurtful things, the sisters are saying hurtful things. why don't we take some time to say something positive about each other for once? i'd love it if radio raheem, who started this thread would start by saying something nice about the ladies. alot of what brothers complain about seeing on this site from women...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I started this thread because I thought that it provided women with some good dating advice. Honest. Soon this thread turned into, like other threads, a battleground for negativity. I backed away from this thread for that reason. As for posting something 'nice' for the ladies, i've found that no matter what I post, be it pictures of beautiful sisters, dating advice, honest perspectives from a single male's point of view, song lyrics/music video links, etc I get nothing but crapped on. It's...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
"Least approachable?" Can you elaborate on this? Do you mean to say that Black women in Washington, DC are the most intimidating? And if so, whhat do you find so intimidating about these women? Yes to both questions. And the reason why brothers in these two areas are often seen with "other women" is because, Adams Morgan, Georgetown especially, are multiracial areas. I shop in these areas and they are heavily populated with people from all races and ethnic groups. Because of its many...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
Good advice...I agree people need to break the 'creature of habit'. So many folks go to the exact same nightclubs, eatries, bars, etc. Break the cycle, try other places
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: Why do souls come to Earth?

HonestBrother ·
IMHO heaven, hell, and earth are the same place. What, after all, is paradise? What knowledge do we have of it? In fact, when we try to imagine it don't we just extrapolate from our earthly experiences? I mean we imagine seeing loved ones, maybe we'll relive our best memories, love, happiness, etc. Ditto for hell.
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show

powerflower ·
The first time I heard Erykah Badu was in the wee hours of the morning on the overnight radio show they played her first single "On & On" and my boyfriend at the time woke me up to listen to it. After that I kept hearing the song but didn't know who sang it. Then I was home from college on some break (I think Thanksgiving or Winter Break) and she was on BET with Big Les (remember her?) and they were at her house. It didn't even seem like an interview it was just like watching a visit to...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we...
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

FireFly ·
I don't understand this, but anyhoo... I wanted to ask you to share with us some dating tips for guys from a gay perspective? It is dating tips for guys, and I'd love to hear how gay guys approach dating. Thanks.
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Re: Shallow Friendships

Fine ·
I've been outside the box since junior high. Thanks, Staryeyenightess! I was sharing an epiphany. I never felt comfortable when they each told about their escapades with all those men. One day something told me to introduce them--cause they say the same things and seem so much alike. Bingo! I never felt excluded, I knew what I was doing as far as introducing them to each other. I know three is a crowd, so it was sort of an experiment....! One of the two said she didn't want to be friends...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Ms_secondhalf ·
"Women think with their vaginas"???? Puh-leeeeeeeze.... YOUNG women, maybe... who tragically, mistakenly think they don't have anything else to offer. Women with sense (and class) do NOT think this way AT ALL. Clearly, the author has unresolved issues, no doubt fueled by chasing some woman who didn't give him the time of day after he had his way with her and bought her groceries. My brother once remarked that men are basically uncomplicated: "We want food, football and sex, sis. Sometimes...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
You answered the question.... "What if his goal is to do a honest day's work, take care of his home, wife, and children to the best of his abilities?" This has nothing to do with his 'potential earnings', or what he does for a living (no matter what, i'll always have his back).......this has to do with the fact that he has an agenda, a purpose in life. He may not make a lot of money.......but hes doing the best that he can, treating me with love and respect...............thats really all i...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

FireFly ·
you said it gurl.
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Re: Erykah Badu's stage show

msprettygirl ·
I never saw that,I don't really remember even seeing it advertized. I had to look it up just now and it doesn't look familiar. I know she was in cider house rules, but I never did see all of that.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I wonder how the topics of this article relate to dating single mothers. I've always avoided dating women with childeren. Not because I don't like kids, I love kids! I'm just never sure how to handle the situation. When kids are involved, all the rules change at least a little, and dating is already a mine field! Just out of curiosity, are thier any of the rules in that article that would relate regardless of gender? Or are they all gender specific?
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Re: Tolerance of Intolerance?

HonestBrother ·
Kresge, that's a good question. I suppose the immediate context is Melesi's accusation that I don't give his posts a fair reading. But to be fair, it goes far beyond that. As a single non-Christian, who has just moved to a new town, living in the Bible belt, in a place where the first thing people ask you when they meet you is "Where do you go to church?", in a place where even in the online dating community the women all declare "You can't love me if you can't love Jesus", I frankly find...
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Re: BLACK PEOPLE IN THE BRITISH ISLES

The Homo-Sexuals ·
I am wakafa One-gay-Guy, The Madman, I was born in south east London England and i am 36 years of age, Zim being my background, like i have said there is no black man in Britain who is above 50 years of age born in UK. I am begging you not to come here and feed me with all the gabbage, black people started coming to England in the late 50s, history might say something but as of present on this thread i know what i am talking and writing about. The case is closed. And if you have doubts ask...
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Melesi ·
nikcara, You have more than one point in your post. I will try to address them, but I hope you can forgive me if I miss one or two. Do we have differing definitions of "Christian"? What is a Christian to you? Yes, Christians do differ on issues, but they differ usually because they've started from different points of view. They have different conclusions about the world to begin with, thus they have certain differences in their worldviews, which is part of the point that I made originally.
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Re: Tolerance of Intolerance?

kresge ·
I am grieved to hear about your experience. I spent 12 years in academia as a college/university chaplain. Before my theological training, however, I obtained a B.S. in physics and mathematics, and an M.A. in physics. So I think that I might be able to relate to your situation from several positions. With respect to the AA community, I think that science and mathematics, little priority seems to be given to these disciplines. There seems to be much more of a connection with arts associated...
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Re: Why do souls come to Earth?

MBM ·
Not to press, but I'd love some more feedback/thoughts on this question. Melesi? kresge? Others?
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
I am with Midlifeman on this one....the statement of wanting a man with a purpose in life is quite a vague statement and is one that continues to confuse the hell out of me...don't understand it...Experience has taught me that the concept of what a meaniful purpose for a man varies quite widely between females regardless of race...and it usually entails a minimal of where the lady sees herself...ie if she is a doctor, chances are she would want someone no less than a doctorate. not saying...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

bigddouble ·
Looks aside, I think the question being posed is: What does being a "professional" have to do with love or being a good mate? If a person loves you, treats you well, and helps sustain the household, does it matter if they are a "professional"? Isn't this just another artificial restriction that creates the impression of a man shortage?
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

RadioRaheem ·
good point. I asked earlier about whether education/professional level and love were even related. I think I asked that question in September, maybe one day someone will address it.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Max ·
ddouble said: What does being a "professional" have to do with love or being a good mate? ------------------------------------------------ High social-status (and the perks that go along with it); this is important to alot of men/women when choosing a mate. For many, love for a potential mate can ONLY occur if all the superficial elements are "correct" (house, car, job, clothes, social-connections, etc). I'm not hatin, this is just how some men/women operate.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

bigddouble ·
High social status has nothing to do love IMO. Someone that craves a person's status before considering getting involved is not concerned with love . You called it right - it's superficial . Which is as far away from love as you can get.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

MidLifeMan ·
Beautiful and down to earth That's the vibe I get. Like someone said, many woman say one thing but mean something else. But like you said women must make the choice regardless of this fact. So be careful.That would be like me acknowleding we live in world dominated by Whites and I go out and buck dance and ack like a stepinfecth degrading myself and my people.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

MidLifeMan ·
But like they also say, love don't pay no bills So it's all well and good to look for love (using the heart) but nothing wrong with having certain reasonable expectations (using the head)
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
Holla....!
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Max ·
ddouble said: High social status has nothing to do love IMO. Someone that craves a person's status before considering getting involved is not concerned with love. You called it right - it's superficial. Which is as far away from love as you can get. ------------------------------------------------ I understand what you're saying, and, yes, I guess if a person gives little thought to a potential-mate's intrinsic qualities then they are cheating themselves out of a fullfilling & meaningful...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

MidLifeMan ·
In and ideal world this would be true. I for one have not and would not date a white woman. But if that is what floats another man's boat then so be it. But as I said, we oversimplify the issue with the "it's all about love and finding someone to connect with blah, blah, blah. There are fare deeper issues – psychological and social - when looking at interracial relationships.
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Melesi ·
HB, Yes, the northern abolitionist movement included people who were not Christians, but that really is beside the point. Wiliam Wilberforce in England was a Christian who almost a hundred years before the American Civil War spearheaded the British abolitionist movement. Christians here were encouraged by his success and worked very hard to abolish slavery all through the country. It's what led to our Civil War, you'll remember. They worked with many who were not Christian, but they worked...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Blacksanction ·
MLM I believe that it depends on the persons who are making the love connection. We all bring baggage to a relationship (some bring more than others). Example some white women might pick a black man because she was abused by white guys in her previous relationships. Some black women have done the reverse and if you interviewed both would say that it is because they are treated with respect. I am still trying to figure out one of my wife's friends who was married and had four children. She...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

thayfen ·
Excuse me, please... I have issue with "over-simplified" and "Deeper psychological/social" issues. MLM, do you mean: 1) Love/empathy/trust/loyalty is not relevant in human pair-bonding? 2) People who do not use color-of-skin as leading criteria in the choice of their mates are somehow psychologically deficient? 3) Who are you to dictate this to others?
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

HonestBrother ·
Issues? like? In my experience you're right on the mark.
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

HonestBrother ·
I had already written and you just came back by saying (essentially) that "if you read closely" Paul encourages Philemon to treat Onesimus as a brother - while sending Onesimus back to share brotherly love with his owner . I.e. you only elaborated on what I already said. You didn't contradict it one bit. So why should waste my time responding when there was nothing new to respond to? Your reply was lame. That's not a dodge. That's my opinion. Agree or disagree. I get so sick and tired of...
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Melesi ·
Your illness could be avoided if you wished. Yo uapparently do not do so. Note well what Paul said, that he could order Philemon to release Onesimus if he wanted to. He would rather have it come from Philemon's own heart and love for Onesimus. He's being quite pastoral here as well as apostolic. The command still hovers in the background, the unchanging scene against which this action is played. Yes, if you'd only read closely.
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Melesi ·
Come now, HB, those words can be used against you and be quite accurate. They shoudn't be, though, because they're not an argument, only a questioning of motives and asserting conclusions that you do not and cannot know. I'm reading nothing into the text. Look at the words. They are there. Once more: +++++++++++++++++++++++++ 8Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, 9yet I appeal to you on the basis of love. I then, as Paul"”an old man and now...
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Re: Bush, 'No Child Left Behind', and National Testing

FireFly ·
I'm divided over the value of national tests. They can provide a basic overall sketch of generic skill levels, and make a nice colourful barchart, but fail to give an indepth picture of regional requirements, specialized skillsets, and demographics. I agree with Kweli4Real that teaching children how to think has more long term value that anything else. Frustratingly, in most institutions (and the public imaginaation) the arts are viewed and treated mostly as trivial and with little academic...
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

HonestBrother ·
Logic is a branch of mathematics and I'm intimately familiar with it. Thank you. The Love of Truth is PRECISELY why I will not shackle my mind with the Biblical text. If you Loved Truth so much, you'd be open to seeing it outside the Bible. And you'll get courtesy and respect when you stop your double talk. I'm very courteous actually but I have NO tolerance for BS. None.
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

MidLifeMan ·
Like I said, in an ideal world or maybe a fairytale land race wouldn't be an issue. But in the context of the "real world" and this country it has been, and probably will be for a long time. So love/empathy/trust/loyalty is relevant and I didn't say or imply that they are not, I never said anyone was deficient and like I said, whatever floats another man's boat so I'm not "dictating "anything to anyone. And all of the talk about "love should only matter" is, as I said, great in an ideal...
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Re: "?Who Choses Whom?"

Black Viking ·
Women do the choosing. She chooses to let you bring your game, or she chooses to shut you down immediately. Or she chooses to shut you down tomorrow, or next week, or next year. She has complete control of this game because she made the rules. The challenge for men is to first learn the rules (because she won't tell you what they are), then play by the rules (without letting our ego push us out of bounds), and still find a way to score points! Consider this...How often do men get rejected by...
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Re: DNA Used to Trace African Lineage...

MidLifeMan ·
I didn't finish his book, "Civilization or Barbarism"... but love what i did read. This may turn into something very interesting and divisive. I saw someone on a talk show who used this DNA type testing and found that eventhough he "looked" AFRICAN American his DNA said he was white.
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Re: The Black Commentator vs. The Wall Street Journal

Faheem ·
This has to be the best op-ed I have read all year, albeit it is only the 13th of January. Brother Bruce articulates all that was running through my mind as I was reading white folk commenting about Black folk on a white Blog this morning in regards to a report that was published in Seattle's paper yesterday about the difference in length and how often Black students are suspended and disciplined in School in relations to white students. The garbage that was coming out of these white folk...
 
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