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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I think other races [of women] do experiences it, but they seem to grow out of it[i.e. white women pursuing biker type guys, asian and hispanic women seeking out gangmembers, etc]. For Black women, I think, their problem stems from their decisions to have children with bad boy/thug. A choice which has a much longer attachment [a co-parent] than a lady saying 'when I was younger, I use to date gangmembers]. Choices..choices. Too many younger black women seem to operate from the stand point...
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Re: Bush Admits Faulty Iraq Intel

Kevin41 ·
Al Qaeda No. 2: Bush must admit defeat in Iraq (CNN) -- An Arabic language news network has aired a video of al Qaeda leader Osama bin Laden's top lieutenant, in which he called on U.S. President George W. Bush to admit defeat in Iraq. Al-Jazeera said the video, which is about a minute long, was made in December. According to CNN's translation of the video, Ayman al-Zawahiri offers his condolences to Pakistan for the October 8 earthquake before congratulating fellow Muslims for what he says...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
Not really. Having dated women with children and known them I think it is wise for a person to keep the parenting and relationship separate until it is clear that the relationship will be for the long haul. The main concern is for the child. If the single parent continues to introduce people to the child as a "potential" parent and the relationship ends as they can and do, it could have an impact on the child. And I personally don't have respect for a woman that would place a stranger above...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Don't most people know that after a few months? I certainly do. Unless you mean to say that you should wait to until you are on the verge of getting married to this person before you introduce them to your child(ren). Which I don't agree with. What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy. And you certainly shouldn't...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I'm in total agreement with that point. It would seem silly to allow your child to show less respect to your date than you would allow them to show to a stranger.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Black Viking , wouldn't you want your children's input before you got engaged or too entangled in a relationship? IME, it's much more difficult for a child to think of their parent as single or casually dating and then BAM! all of a sudden they introduce you to their fiance. A child would think "Holy shit! Now I'm forced to like this woman. And why doesn't my dad even care what I think of her or what she thinks of me??" So, no kids of the first date but definitely before the proposal. That's...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Sandye ·
The article makes several good points, however, I think it sugarcoats the "baby mama/daddy drama" that affects many of these types of relationships. When a couple have a child, there is an eternal connection. Even though they no longer wish to have a relationship with the other parent, they play vicious games and can cause great pain perhaps because they are still going through the pain of their separation/divorce. Some biological parents won't speak to the step-parent for any reason and are...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

FireFly ·
I like children, but, for the reasons above - and many others - I avoid ever dating any man with children under 21, and preferably with none at all. So far, I've been lucky. [insert relieved face icon here] I never say never, but it's as close to never as it's possible to get.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
She's not to young to understand relationships. Someone just needs to have a talk with her and understand that it's not easy for the child. I don't know if most people know that the relationship is leading to marriage after only a few months. But I would think that the two people should have at least established if the relationship is exclusive. Once they reach that point then the child can start to be introduced to the other person. But I still think it should be in small doses. If and when...
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Melesi ·
HB, Yes, the northern abolitionist movement included people who were not Christians, but that really is beside the point. Wiliam Wilberforce in England was a Christian who almost a hundred years before the American Civil War spearheaded the British abolitionist movement. Christians here were encouraged by his success and worked very hard to abolish slavery all through the country. It's what led to our Civil War, you'll remember. They worked with many who were not Christian, but they worked...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

xxGAMBITxx ·
Speaking as one of these single dads (as in actually RAISING my kid), I gotta give some props to the article. But it does come off as leaning toward the idea that the man is the non-custodial parent. What if he's a full time daddy? Dealing with the issues of the kids being in the picture just about 24/7? Just my thoughts..........
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

MidLifeMan ·
Like I said, in an ideal world or maybe a fairytale land race wouldn't be an issue. But in the context of the "real world" and this country it has been, and probably will be for a long time. So love/empathy/trust/loyalty is relevant and I didn't say or imply that they are not, I never said anyone was deficient and like I said, whatever floats another man's boat so I'm not "dictating "anything to anyone. And all of the talk about "love should only matter" is, as I said, great in an ideal...
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Re: Vouchers ???

Nmaginate ·
And that is exactly the problem. And you can't rule out a figurative rush to "Profit." All of that, I can explain but the point is, you really wasn't reading carefully at all (see below). But, maybe you could just better articulate the idea about "competition" and actually explain/elaborate on how such "competition" can and will benefit ALL or as many children as possible and, particularly, a big (as opposed to a little) chunk of "the least among us." It can't be that hard if your actually...
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
Yea, he's not telling the whole truth. During most child support/custody hearings ample time is alloted the non-custodial parent to spend with his/her kids; and oh, about how child support took his entire disability check, by law disability cannot be garnished for the purpose of child support . . .
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Re: Civil Rights Focus Shift Roils Staff At Justice

Kweli4Real ·
Politics Alleged In Voting Cases Justice Officials Are Accused of Influence By Dan Eggen Washington Post Staff Writer Monday, January 23, 2006; A01 The Justice Department's voting section, a small and usually obscure unit that enforces the Voting Rights Act and other federal election laws, has been thrust into the center of a growing debate over recent departures and controversial decisions in the Civil Rights Division as a whole. Many current and former lawyers in the section charge that...
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Re: father claims rights denied

MidLifeMan ·
And this means that the other parent "complies" with the court order? Just becasue the court says the father has rights to see the child doesn't mean the mother complies no more then when the court orders the father to pay child support that he complies. And it can get expensive taking someone to court all the time to fight for you rights. Any why is that? I'm sure most may say it is not the norm but I watch my brother in law get f*cked by the courts. And he DID provide ALL of the childrens...
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Re: father claims rights denied

bigddouble ·
The problem is that there is no accountability for the money paid via child support. The custodial parent does not have to prove they are using the garnishment exclusively for the care of the children. I think the custodial parent should have to produce receipts, verifying proper usage of the support payment. Additionally, anytime the custodial parent wants to request a change in custody status or support payments, you have to show up (with representation if you don't want to get screwed) or...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

sunnubian ·
-------------------------------------- Funny how this Elephant ONLY sits in the room of single 'Black' mothers -- nobody else, no other single mothers/parents -- more 'chug and plug' psychology. What is also not being said here is the fact that children from two parent households are viewed differently and treated differently and disciplined differently and less often in the majority of cases involving school discipline/infractions, etc., while there is a different (unwritten) set of rules...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Yemaya ·
I'm going to add something else, I know many single parents of various races whose children are more well behaved than some of the children with two parent families and get better grades. Which begs the question, why?? I reality, it has nothing to do with the amount of parents in the home, but the quality of parent and parenting in the home.
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
_________________________________________________________________________ Often this may be the case when there has been a long marriage and an agreement for the wife to be a stay at home mom, etc., the court takes into consideration the number of years the wife could have been either educating herself and/or working, but instead stayed at home and maintained the household and raised the children while the husband worked and establish an avenue of independent livelihood outside the home.
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Nikcara: "Good fathers get truly screwed because they want their kids but the mothers use the children as pawn for money. It is totally discretionary for the mother." -------------------------------------------- This is not a totally true statement, though I am sure, no I know that there are some mothers out there like that, but usually, court ordered childsupport has a formula for computing childsupport, which takes into consideration both parents incomes which...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

sunnubian ·
___________________________________________ If there were not a bias against single parents and children that came from single parent homes, the irrevelant statement about 'single parent homes' would never have beens made in the first place. In fact, the fact that children's parent's marital status is so sought after in nearly every school form, etc., in the first place, is flaming evidence of pre-categorizing chidren in the onset in most public schools.
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Frenchy ·
I don't see how he reaches his conclusion. Children in two-parent homes are certainly at an advantage in a variety of ways. The breakdown of some "traditional" values and embracing of destructive behavior is definitely causing our children harm. AND there are plenty of teachers and administrators out there who are racists and punish Black children to a much harsher degree than white students. Those things are not mutually exclusive.
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Re: What About The Debt Blacks Owe To America?

Black Viking ·
Christ, where do I start... Horsesh*t. There were two major contributing factors to the end of slavery and neither one had anything to do with the good graces of the slave holders. First, at the end of the 100 years war between England and France, both nations abolished slavery as a part of the treaty. They did this, presumably, because the economic advantage of slavery would have undone their stalemate if only one of them had it. But it became threatening for America to be the only Atlantic...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
Maybe the PRIMARY CONCERN OF HIS IS BLACK PEOPLE AND THUS HE DOES NOT NEED TO TALK ABOUT WHITE FOLKS!!!!! Why must Black people reference White folks as guidance on what we should be doing? Is it possible for us to have certain policies and standards that are free and clear of them? I am a parent. I have associates and family members who are either single parents or teenaged parents. It is hard for me and my wife to raise our children. I can only empathize with the burden that single parents...
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Re: What About The Debt Blacks Owe To America?

James Wesley Chester ·
I think that Lincoln gets way to much credit for this. He wrote in a letter, just before the beginning of the Civil War, that his "greatest concern is to save the Union. If I believed that preserving slavery would accomplish that goal, I would do so." The only thing Lincoln deserves credit for is being far sighted enough to realize that if slavery wasn't abolished, the slaves themselves were going to tear his beloved Union down around his ears.---Black Viking I really appreciat your post. I...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Nmaginate ·
I'll repeat it one more time, CON-Feed, then I'll ask for your response: ************************************************************************** Investigations of behavior, race, and discipline have yet to provide evidence that African American students misbehave at a significantly higher rate. Studies have failed to find racial disparities in misbehavior sufficient to account for the typically wide racial differences in school punishment.
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

MBM ·
As a parent of two young school age boys I have seen this phenomenon first hand. Little white boys can swing from the ceiling and they are "cute". Let a little black boy do anything - exibiting energy and vibrance outside a very narrow prescribed box of behavior - and it's a problem. The elephant in the room is white racism against black children. Black kids never get the benefit of the doubt that white teachers would want for their own kids (hence they generously shovel it out for other...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Yemaya ·
I didn't say that there wasn't bias against single parents. Please quote the line immediately following which states: "Unfortunately, there are teachers and administrators who are biased against black children and boys, especially." I don't have a problem with what you're saying Sunnubian, but please respectfully don't misquote me and attempt to take my comments out of context. I am the single parent of two black boys myself and I know the daily grinding that I have to do with my sons'...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

sunnubian ·
--------------------------------------------- I wasn't disagreeing with you, I was really agreeing. I guess I assume 'the you is understood' as the discussion progresses and forget that written communication does not always come across the same as face to conversation, but anyway, I should have posted it like this maybe: And besides, or Also, etc., if there were not a bias against single parents and children that came from single parent homes, the irrevelant statement about 'single parent...
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Re: father claims rights denied

Nikcara ·
By Sunnubian I am not sure where you practice law, but in NJ, child support is calculated based on both incomes, thereafter, the non-custodial parent, pays in cash or check directly to the cusotidal parent or to the child support office[in NJ it is called the Probation Department], who converts the cash into a check that is either deposited directly into the custodial parent's account or mailed to him or her. The Custodial Parent has the discretion to spend the money as he or she see fit.
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
"I am not sure where you practice law, but in NJ, child support is calculated based on both incomes," ----------------------------------------------- I could have sworn that I stated that, but anyway, since that is how it is caculated, how can it be unfair to either party, especially to him or whichever parent does not actually have the children? -------------------------------------------- "thereafter, the non-custodial parent, pays in cash or check directly to the cusotidal parent or to...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Nmaginate ·
And this is coming from Mr. "The Asians" himself. Funny how it's cool to reference things when your references can be used to disparage, huh PUNK-Feed? And, lo & behold... Mr. Phillips (aka Waymon Tinsdale III) also just happened to mention Asian-Americans yet we don't hear a damn thing coming out of PUKE-Feed's mouth whining about referencing or comparing African-Americans to Asian-Americans... Hmmm.... Always IN DEFERENCE, huh PUNK-Feed? ... I mean 'WHITE BOY'?
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Re: Hypothetically...Ofcourse

kresge ·
Great letter. I think that some media outlets would pick it up and carry it; e.g., the black press and the liberal alternative media. It makes a great deal of sense to me. By the way, do you know what the graduation rate of black athletes are at UT. When I was in college in the 80's attending an SEC university, a study came out showing that many of the schools in the conference had not seen any black athletes graduate in over a decade.
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

Nmaginate ·
Valley Traditional High School is in the middle of a racial controversy. A teacher used a racial epithet towards a student. The word is only six letters long but the impact is far reaching. We do want to warn you that some of the language in this story is strong and may offend some people, but since this story is not just about the "n" word it's also about the pronunciation, we've decided to leave it in the story for you to decide. Murphy: "What did he say to you specifically?" Chavers: "Sit...
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Re: What about dating single mums?

Frenchy ·
Why the "but?" Any of the women you listed could still be of good character. I think a lot of the apprehension is projection. You see a single women and immediately assume she is looking for a co-parent and judge it so.
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Re: Should God?

kresge ·
And these assertions are predicated on what? Can you say more about what you mean here? It could be interpreted as referring to intentionality, in which case there is not a disagreement with what I have presented. Take the analogy of a parent. They may always [i]intend[i] to do the best for their children, but this does not mean that they in fact accomplish this. They may make errors that need correction.
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Re: are parents @ fault for this?

Black Viking ·
I had to vote yes, but I know it's not as simple as that. Rather than assigning blame, parents need to consider who is actually in a position to solve the problem. Parents can point fingers at anyone for there children's ills, and frequently do. I'm not saying that city, state, and even federal agencies shouldn't be involved in curtailing this activity, but they have to very careful about constricting the rights of consenting adults. The simpler and far more effective solution is to...
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Re: Are You a Racist?

kresge ·
Some of you may have seen this article, but I thought I would throw it into the mix from the site Race Traitor . The White Anti-Racist Is an Oxymoron: An Open Letter to "White Anti-Racists" By Tamara K. Nopper I received an annoying e-mail about white people and their struggle to do anti-racist work. I keep reading and hearing white people talk about their struggle to do anti-racist organizing, and frankly it gets on my nerves. So I am writing this open letter to white people who engage in...
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

kresge ·
That is a very interesting list of books especially as framed in the context of relevant knowledge. As you note, the issue is what constitutes relevant. I think that each of us probably has a canon of books that we think are the most relevant, or perhaps contributed the most to who we are and how we understand the world. With respect to education, I think that it is not necessarily the content that may be the most important, but it is the pedagogy. Students do need a knowledge base, but they...
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Re: Please, please read and digest

Faheem ·
The U.S. is still trying to flex its muscle towards Iran while China and Russia are using the U.S. arogance to their advantage. ========================== China-Iran Energy Talks Complicate Nuclear Standoff February 17, 2006; Page A6 China and Iran are trying to conclude a multibillion-dollar oil-and-gas deal in coming weeks, underscoring how China's appetite for energy could undermine Washington's efforts to isolate Iran. An agreement would seal a memorandum of understanding signed by China...
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Re: Conspiracy Theorists: What's With the Ports?

Texas Star ·
I overlooked this forum, and started a similar topic on the board (This would really give good cause for the levee's to be broken in New Orleans and the 9th ward not being rebuilt right now..The most lucrative port, The port of New Orleans, just so happens to be part of the deal. Oh, also did you notice the regions, seems like all the minority ports to me.. Philly, New Orleans, Miami, Baltimore, New Jersey and New York!!!!!! Things that make you go hummm) By TED BRIDIS and DEVLIN BARRETT...
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Re: State of Black America hosted by Tavis on CSPAN now..

Yemaya ·
Here's not so much an opposing view, but a different view on how the symposium went. I enjoyed the symposium for the fact that it even exists, but I can understand where the author of this article is coming from. Although we love our educated black folks and they have great ideas, the masses want some action. Why is Tavis Smiling? And Why are we watching? Every year, radio/tv commentator Tavis Smiley holds a forum that brings together "the best and the brightest" African-Americans from...
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Re: I'm In Love With A Stripper?

EbonyRose ·
I wouldn't think so. Unfortunately, those 40 kids probably learned the songs from watching BET with their parent!
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Re: One Man Battling the Democratic Party

1milehi ·
http://adeebafolami.com/archives/2006/perryman2.html
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Re: Albinism: The "Bleached" Uncolor {Revisee}

Philippe ·
BLACK SKIN IS THE GENETIC PARENT! Caucasians are albinos Whites cannot reproduce anything but themselves! Through powerful propaganda and indoctrination we have been completely oblivious to what having white skin really means. We have been skillfully mislead to believe that white skin is mankind's anthropological model and should be coveted. However, recent research paints a picture of white skin that is just the antithesis of what we have been brainwashed to believe. The polar bear analysis...
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Re: Albinism: The "Bleached" Uncolor {Revisee}

Kai ·
Peace.... Scientists Find A DNA Change That Accounts For White Skin By Rick WeissWashington Post Staff Writer Friday, December 16, 2005; Page A01 Scientists said yesterday that they have discovered a tiny genetic mutation that largely explains the first appearance of white skin in humans tens of thousands of years ago, a finding that helps solve one of biology's most enduring mysteries and illuminates one of humanity's greatest sources of strife. The work suggests that the skin-whitening...
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

Rowe ·
Great! I'm always appreciative of people who not only acknowledge problems in our educational system, but are also working towards solving those problems, whatever they may be. Ultimately, all of us know that the "educational system" is wrought with problems. Antiquated teaching methods based on an industrialized education model is just ONE of them. However, the question is what are you doing and what have you done to address what you perceive to be a problem. To be honest, I'm ready for...
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Re: Feingold to Call for Rare Presidential Censure

Kweli4Real ·
The Speaker of the House, Dennis Hastert, is next in line. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2005/11/05/house-speaker-rep-dennis_n_10175.html So we can rest easy ... it would be business as usual.
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Re: Feingold to Call for Rare Presidential Censure

HonestBrother ·
I do see the problems with impeachment... but we need to start somewhere. And we also need to start bringing in INDICTMENTS on the top ranks of this * criminal * administration . Cheney can't do much harm if he's indicted, tried, and convicted for his role in the Plame affair...
 
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