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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

RadioRaheem ·
Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
how old is your friend? If she is over 30, then it sounds like she is taking the best deal on the table. I'm from the MD area, educated in DC[Georgetown U], returned to DC after grad school and have found that black women are the least approachable women of the all. Many DC black men agree with me on this. That's why there are so many mixed couples in the surrounding areas, i.e. Northern VA, PG County, Gaitherburg MD, Bethesda MD, and Silver Spring MD...have you ever been to Georgetown??
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Re: Trapping a Man

RadioRaheem ·
1. I don't think it is a sign of a mental illness, just a reality check. Older women that desire motherhood have to do whatever it takes to get to that goal...and time is running out. 2. I think that older women have to 'fall in line' when it comes with their desire to be a wife and mom. I know from personal experiences in dating women well over 30 that marriage/child questions on a first or second date is a real downer!! But what choice does she really have? I mean if she is losing her...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Constructive Feedback (Guest) ·
At the end of either process the Black baby is................? 1) Alive because "We know not the womb that holds the king"? or 2) Disposed of? Problem solved. **** Nick Cannon - "Can I Live?" Good thing HIS mother didn't express her "choice" http://www.nickcannonmusic.com/caniliveqt.html
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
Based upon the onus you place on their backs, why do you call them "victims"? Please explain. A woman has been repeatedly abused by her husband over the years. She walks into the police station, finally, seeking protection and relief. CF looks at her and says, "What are you prepared to do to change to help your situation?" First of all - she has taken the first step and is at the damned police station. Second of all, that she has survived as long as she has is a testament to her personal...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
Folobatuyi, yes women should be held accountable for their actions as well........its just that i find that women are being held to a much higher standard than most men..........which to me is not fair. RadioRaheem......you seem to have a dislike for women in their 30's........and im going to assume youre in your 30's, and not married, etc. (if this is not true, then i apologize). But my question is........what makes you any different, than a woman in her 30's?
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

MidLifeMan ·
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides. One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return". I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in. And then you...
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

nayo ·
ROTFLMAO!!!! p.s. I almost, fell for the Elder 'okidoke', until I heard his response to an African American woman (on his recently cancelled television show), who was opining about racism in the U.S. He asked her, why did'nt she just go 'back' to Africa if the racism was so bad here!! I could'nt believe it.
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

folobatuyi ·
Thanks Rowe....
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
Personally, I believe there is some truth to this...especially the part where the author advised men to "never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she actually does instead." I would modify that to say that as a guy, one should not only hear or listen to what a woman says but also observe and keep note on what she does...much more telling and true. As to the role of money and the need for sex as items of attraction women see in men...both are factors but I think it is...
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Re: Should Black People...

FireFly ·
I think everyone should be able to BE who they are - unless their behaviour is unacceptable to any part of society. As for the big guy running around the block an extra time, or going out of his way.... for myself, as a white woman, if a big guy (of any race) was getting in an elevator with me alone late at night, then just a smile from anyone would make me feel at ease if I felt uneasy. But I would only feel uneasy if I picked up that vibe. I don't expect special treatment. I don't believe...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
I guess both men/women can only see their side of things...because of experiences. But i have issues with those that 'want' more than they 'are'. As Sweetwuzzy mentioned..... "Some Sisters suffer from low self-esteem. Society, relationship experts say, teaches that Black women are the lowest on the social scale--what Zora Neale Hurston calls "mules of the world." "Men have a much higher self-esteem," says Moore. "They are taught not to settle. No matter how they look or what age they are,...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
I agree. So why can't we "be real" about Black men's situation in this country? When African-American women talk about how this state of affairs is impacting their lives, why can't you all respectfully acknowledge what you are hearing and reading? Whenever an African-American woman tells people about how the deterioration of her community is impacting her future, all she gets are expressions of disbelief and denial, followed by a list of general dating tips. Well Black women are not apart of...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
* I have no problems with reality {I actually prefer it to the self-boosting misinformation often floating about the Black community}, so long as those women acknowledge that they chose to date those guys all by themselves [cherry picked]. It was her choice to date/pursue Joe Thug and Ray-ray and thus it was her 'fault' when they let her down. If you sleep with dogs, you just might wake up with fleas and puppies!!! She also can't blame 'sane' black men that didn't appeal to her 'Ray-Ray'...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
I had read the thread, and posted before. I will tell you what I think about the question you posed, but I don't think all the men are saying that all Black women are naturally bad daters/decision makers. I think that people are getting all riled up when they disagree with what someone posts and then they respond emotionally. Hey, I do it too I don't think the original post was meant to be offensive. I think it was directed at women because it came from a magazine directed at women. I wasn't...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

detroit1 ·
Yeah but some women are looking to draw sympathy from others for having to ordeal such a "horrible relationship". I don't buy it. The worst that a woman makes her ex out to sound, the worst it makes her look for staying with that person. And some women say "Preach to your brethren; maybe they'll listen"....What??? Huh???? Those cats got it too good. They don't have to do anything cause their damaged esteem girlfriend provides everything. They just have to make sure not to show her too much...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Ms_secondhalf ·
"Women think with their vaginas"???? Puh-leeeeeeeze.... YOUNG women, maybe... who tragically, mistakenly think they don't have anything else to offer. Women with sense (and class) do NOT think this way AT ALL. Clearly, the author has unresolved issues, no doubt fueled by chasing some woman who didn't give him the time of day after he had his way with her and bought her groceries. My brother once remarked that men are basically uncomplicated: "We want food, football and sex, sis. Sometimes...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

ronin10 ·
Because women think with their vaginas -- that is, they use their awesome sexual power to control, manipulate, and get what they want from men. And men let them get away with it. I don't know if women think with their vaginas but they do know a man's sexual appetite is usually a trillion times hers, so by default she probably has to think with her vagina to have some sort of control. A woman hates a "player" because she has no sexual power over him and cannot manipulate him, yet still finds...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

Max ·
LoL! Maybe you have a point Audio - although she would be pretty hypocritical if she actually felt that way. Qty226, you may have a point also, but I didn't drool or leer at her or anything like that. In fact, I make it a point NOT to do that when courting a woman - it smacks of desperation. Yes, I was sizing her up for 2-3 seconds, but it was seemless - I wasn't gawking; and I'm more than certain that she didn't notice (guys are good at this). But I had to let her know that I found her...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God

Melesi ·
Sometimes the two concepts confused in this discussion (not this one specifically but this issue) is linguistic gender and biological sex. One cannot argue from the first to the second. A very funny treatment of this and several other like issues in language can be found in Mark Twain's essay "The Awful German Language." Seriously, however, in languages where every noun is assigned a gender (which is most of them. Interestingly, English has rid itself of almost all gender-references, and yet...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God

HonestBrother ·
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Re: Nick Cannon "I'm addicted to white women"

FireFly ·
he and 1-gay-guy should hang out together.
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

MidLifeMan ·
Oversimplified and nothing new. Think Positive? Most men have found out one of life's little secrets – women like confident men. But when constantly faced with dealing with rejection, how long before chinks in the armor start to show. Men have self esteem issues also. I personally think that many of those that appear to have great self confidence i.e. I'm a pimp/player mentality are masking low self esteem issues. I remember a singles network event where a woman shared that she decided that...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
There are a million reasons why she reacted, to you just nodding and smiling. But it seems to me, that you really liked her.....and because of this, maybe you should've taken the opportunity to chat, and find out what the deal was. (It couldnt hurt, right?) I've been in a similar situation, room full of people.....i smile at a guy, he turns his head..........only to be in my face an hour later. I put him on ignore........and moved on, because he really didnt leave a lasting impression. Out...
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Re: King Kong, The Movie

Isome ·
I have NOTHING to add to this, NO comments... it just needed to be repeated!
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
And adding to your response, I would like to say that, again, not every failed relationship that a Black woman experiences is the result of her selecting 2-bit hustlers, drug dealors, and losers off the streets. Educated brothers and sisters, with good heads on their shoulders, experience failed relationships too! And no one wakes up in the morning to say, "You know what, today, I want to pick the wrong person for me." Usually, both men and women, will not discover that someone is "wrong"...
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Re: Exploring a Stereotype

Black Viking ·
That is a very good point. What exactly is "hyperaggressiveness"? For one person to be observed as more aggressive than another is one thing. For an entire group of people to be characterized as more aggressive there has to be a standard of aggressiveness. Do whites get to set the standard for everything that we do?!
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
Not really. Having dated women with children and known them I think it is wise for a person to keep the parenting and relationship separate until it is clear that the relationship will be for the long haul. The main concern is for the child. If the single parent continues to introduce people to the child as a "potential" parent and the relationship ends as they can and do, it could have an impact on the child. And I personally don't have respect for a woman that would place a stranger above...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Don't most people know that after a few months? I certainly do. Unless you mean to say that you should wait to until you are on the verge of getting married to this person before you introduce them to your child(ren). Which I don't agree with. What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy. And you certainly shouldn't...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
MidLifeMan summed up my feelings on this pretty well. I've always been a big fan of moving as slowly as possible in relationships. I especially take my time when it comes to introductions. I was dating my ex-wife for a year and we were engaged for another six months before she even met my parents. No other woman that I have dated has been around long enough to earn the privilege of meeting my family. I'm very careful about the girls that I bring home.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I'm in total agreement with that point. It would seem silly to allow your child to show less respect to your date than you would allow them to show to a stranger.
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Black Viking , wouldn't you want your children's input before you got engaged or too entangled in a relationship? IME, it's much more difficult for a child to think of their parent as single or casually dating and then BAM! all of a sudden they introduce you to their fiance. A child would think "Holy shit! Now I'm forced to like this woman. And why doesn't my dad even care what I think of her or what she thinks of me??" So, no kids of the first date but definitely before the proposal. That's...
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Re: Exploring a Stereotype

qty226 ·
The key sentence in your response was....... "I think that aggressiveness has its place, but like most things it should be used in moderation." Im not too sure, what white women go through on a daily basis.....i can only assume. But being a black woman, i fight everyday. When you continue to fight at every turn.........you become aggressive, to maintain or achieve in life. The key for me was to learn how not to be aggressive.....when there was no need. (and i must add, not every black woman...
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Re: Exploring a Stereotype

Black Viking ·
Well put. I can see where your comming from. What I ment about the white women with that mind set is that they can be fighting every day just like you, even if they don't need to. I know as well as anyone when your fighting every day, being a warrior can easily go from being a hobby, to being a habbit, to being a lifestyle.
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Re: Nick Cannon "I'm addicted to white women"

msprettygirl ·
she is a pretty woman, I'll give her that.
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Re: Law, Morality, and Christians

Nikcara ·
I am a Christian, I am heterosexual, I think gays should be allowed to marry, I think women have the right of choice and affirmative action is desparately needed because children are still being left behind. Law in the USA is not about morality it is about power and money. It was law that enslaved my ancestors using the Christian Bible, it was law that separated the races under Jim Crow using the Christian Bible , it was law that cause the police to sick dogs on citizens because they were...
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Re: What 'white' muso's get you groovin'?

The Homo-Sexuals ·
WOULD THE REAL BLACK MAN or WOMAN STAND UP? what African band or group OR musician makes you move......lets see.... I see your true colours ...........
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Empty Purnata ·
CF, stop pretending that you "care". You aren't concerned that we are "placing an ideology above our own concerns", you are upset that that ideology is not Capitalism. If we were 100% Capitalists, you would have no problem. If we placed Capitalism above our own concerns, you wouldn't care. You are just upset that we are not Capitalists (well, at least I'm not, I'm not sure if MBM is a Capitalist or a Socialist he comes off as a Socialized Capitalist to me). I can get along just fine with...
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Re: Sago Mine Explosion - Another Bushco Production?

Isome ·
Secretary of Labor Elaine Chao, a woman of color , used the expected rightwing half-truth tactic to defend the administration's record on mine safety enforcement. She said that federal inspectors had "increased their inspections [at the Sago mine] by about 84 percent." That's only half true . Though inspectors increased their inspections at Sago, what Chao didn't say was that the inspections clearly documented the unsafe conditions at the mine: Nearly half of the 208 safety citations levied...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
no, people don't 'wake up' one morning and pursue that 'wrong person', but those people ACTIONS show that they did. Actions are all we can judge here...and unfortunately for many young black women, it's the action of dating/mating a thug. Maybe those women are too young to understand that long term effects of that choice or maybe they were just trying to be a part of the 'in' crowd...whatever. The result is plain as day when numerous black women are not pursuing relationships that are sane...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
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Re: Sistah Souljah

Fine ·
msprettygirl--I first heard about this fantastic black woman on Geraldo Rivera's Show in 1989. She, Reverend Sharpton were pitted again a group of white supremist. SS held her own and stood up to those racist. From that point on I saught to find out who this female was that stood up to racist with such vigor, strength and self assurance. She attended Salamanca--that famous school of higher learning in Spain [i.e. founded, organized by the Moors]....
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
She's not to young to understand relationships. Someone just needs to have a talk with her and understand that it's not easy for the child. I don't know if most people know that the relationship is leading to marriage after only a few months. But I would think that the two people should have at least established if the relationship is exclusive. Once they reach that point then the child can start to be introduced to the other person. But I still think it should be in small doses. If and when...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

MidLifeMan ·
Beautiful and down to earth That's the vibe I get. Like someone said, many woman say one thing but mean something else. But like you said women must make the choice regardless of this fact. So be careful.That would be like me acknowleding we live in world dominated by Whites and I go out and buck dance and ack like a stepinfecth degrading myself and my people.
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Re: BLACK PEOPLE IN THE BRITISH ISLES

FireFly ·
Ignatius Sancho (1729-1780) (excerpts only) From African Slave to Composer & Author Born on a Slave Ship Near Guinea, West Africa Ignatius Sancho was one of the few Africans in 18th-century England to become a member of the middle class, highly literate and an amateur musician and composer. Birth Ignatius Sancho was born in 1729 on a British slave ship near Guinea, West Africa, enroute to the Spanish West Indies. He was orphaned in infancy. Ignatius Sancho: An African Man of Letters is a...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

MidLifeMan ·
In and ideal world this would be true. I for one have not and would not date a white woman. But if that is what floats another man's boat then so be it. But as I said, we oversimplify the issue with the "it's all about love and finding someone to connect with blah, blah, blah. There are fare deeper issues – psychological and social - when looking at interracial relationships.
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Re: We lost almost a full percentage in IT workforce count over 9 year period

Dusty Elbow ·
Question: Is depreciation based on "market value at the time" because if so it could be like an old mint baseball card that increases even thought "naturally" it is decressing. If they stop making computers for a year and you got the latest line before the stoppage and you wish to resell it on the market wouldn't you get an appreciation on it even though its "naturally" depreciating.
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Re: Million Dollar Baby

nayo ·
Me either; except Freeman' is good for those supportive roles to white males, wher he can utter, "get busy living, or get busy dying" comments of wisdom. I was especially 'displeased' with the character of the young black latina, who 'put' "Swank's' character in her predicament. The evil black woman, who would'nt fight 'fair'.
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Kevin41 ·
** This is why we must push to educate the black populous. For the last few years, the CalStart program that sends lower-income people to the CalState schools had a surplus of money. While a teacher in that system, I was able to get people to encuorage others they knew to apply for and utilize the monies available. Between that and contributing to black organizations for thelast 20 years and taking young black males to Camp Sigma to learn about self-esteem, acacdemic acheivement and gang,...
 
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