Tagged With "Post Slavery Mental Illness"

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Re: Trapping a Man

RadioRaheem ·
1. I don't think it is a sign of a mental illness, just a reality check. Older women that desire motherhood have to do whatever it takes to get to that goal...and time is running out. 2. I think that older women have to 'fall in line' when it comes with their desire to be a wife and mom. I know from personal experiences in dating women well over 30 that marriage/child questions on a first or second date is a real downer!! But what choice does she really have? I mean if she is losing her...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

MidLifeMan ·
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides. One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return". I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in. And then you...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
I guess both men/women can only see their side of things...because of experiences. But i have issues with those that 'want' more than they 'are'. As Sweetwuzzy mentioned..... "Some Sisters suffer from low self-esteem. Society, relationship experts say, teaches that Black women are the lowest on the social scale--what Zora Neale Hurston calls "mules of the world." "Men have a much higher self-esteem," says Moore. "They are taught not to settle. No matter how they look or what age they are,...
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Re: 2005--In Loving Memory Of....

HonestBrother ·
I didn't know about Albert Sloan. I actually worked at Miles College when he was President. But then they say you shouldn't speak ill of the dead...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Black Viking ·
Anyone who believes that has never met my ex-wife. I think this has very little to do with whether a person chooses to date black or white. Dating is such a complicated mess anyway, often times it comes down to simple accessability. I have dated mostly white women in my life, mostly because those were the women that were around. I am the last person you will see passing up an good opportunity because that opportunity doesn't fit my perfect mental picture. I am far more interested in her...
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Michael ·
....more likely Empty Purnata, ricardomath, and Kevin41 are full of it..... ..now this is punishment... punishment for wrong and foolish actions truly deserved. ..now, I choose not to go this direction, and slim chance exists, where I will be punished for anything that I truly did....... .....There is nothing that a Kevin41 can do that will ruin me, punish me, ruin my good reputation, etc., etc. ..haven't sustained any losses, be it financial, or otherwise, thus what you have classed as...
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Michael ·
"Nah Isome...those days of giving little mikey attention have fizzled down to nothing......what the hell...i made a decent effort up front to communicate so to hell with it......i read some of the old posts Ricardo chronicled and I was really too damn diplomatic in the first place...just takes a minute to figure it out when you trying to give a fool the benefit of the doubt. Remember when I said so in the thread about New Years resolutions? Well as you can see today is the 7th.....once I get...
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Re: Education: then and now, Thomas Sowell

Kevin41 ·
CF...you can talk about my momma all you like...because my parents were not the racially afflicted coons like yours who raised you with those antebellum views where colored folk like them knew their place..plus I know you would never have the balls to say schit in my face...and even though what a coonin azz lackey says never bothers me......i'd stomp your azz beyond recognition just because of your level of bitch azz imposition......you are a weak azz dick sucking failure as a black man, you...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
For God's Sake! Denzel and Halle are only examples. The double standard plays out in normal everyday life! "What makes you think you deserve to date an attractive attorney?" "That's what you get for dating a 'pretty boy'?" "Who wouldn't choose the girl with the big butt over the brainiac? It's only natural to go after what is visually appealing!" Etc. This is NOT about specifically dating Denzels and Halles. This is NOT about lowering dating expectations. It's not about speicifcally dating...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Black Viking ·
There is nothing sick or sexist about that comment. My experience is that good sex requires a certain amount of mental stimulation. However, that's .
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Re: A Narrow View of Black Women

FireFly ·
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Re: A Narrow View of Black Women

FireFly ·
I don't buy women's magazines anymore, but I was flicking through the Australian edition of marie claire at work and noticed, among other women's pics, a picture of Alek Wek in a feature called "Women of the World ... what has changed?" So I thought ok, what does she, or an african woman have to say? I flicked through the pages to see a Bio pic of a woman (supposedly) representing each 'world region' and a brief comment. Not seeing any black faces, disappointed, I realised the only entry for...
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Re: Edna Griffin: The Rosa Parks of Iowa

ricardomath ·
Edna Griffin, 1909-2000 'It was not hard for me to stand up' By DANA BOONE REGISTER STAFF WRITER Originally published on 2/9/2000 Edna Griffin, an Iowa civil-rights pioneer, died Tuesday morning at the Ramsey Home in Des Moines. Griffin, 90, is best known for her fight in 1948 against Katz Drug Store in downtown Des Moines, which refused to serve blacks at its lunch counter. Griffin staged sit-ins, picketed in front of the store and filed charges against the store's owner, Maurice Katz. He...
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Re: Radio Raheem's Personal tribute to Interracial couples

HonestBrother ·
And oh yeah, thanks for illustrating the mental problems some of you sistas have
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Re: Radio Raheem's Personal tribute to Interracial couples

qty226 ·
Thats the best you got?? More excuses huh? I feel you!!
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Re: Radio Raheem's Personal tribute to Interracial couples

HonestBrother ·
Why the hell should I bother wasting my time typing ish to someone who doesn't bother to actually read and comprehend it? You respond the same no matter what I say. That's not an excuse. it's an objective fact that's clear to anyone who reads this thread.
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Re: Untitled--Just Disappointed and Upset

Empty Purnata ·
I can certainly empathize. My mother has always been a Christian since I was born (she grew up in a moderate church). But, she always used to be a very open and somewhat liberal Christian. I even found her reading books about other religions and even Christian Astrology. But, 2 years ago, she broke her leg and found herself houseridden for several months and dependent upon other people (which was a very humbling and even humiliating experience for my mother because she's always been a very...
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Re: Untitled--Just Disappointed and Upset

FireFly ·
I truly sympathise Rowe and I wish you all the strength, patience and love to endure. No easy answer here. It's too personal to go into here, but let's just say, that the 'us vs. them' mentality/disease of Pentecostal fundamentalism has torn my own family and my ex-husbands family apart. My parents have suffered incredibly and my ex has only a platonic relationship with his mother. Only certain types of people fall under the spell of fundamentalist long-term - however by then a lot of...
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Re: Untitled--Just Disappointed and Upset

Empty Purnata ·
Thanks! I'm not so much concerned for myself, I'm concerned for my two younger siblings who are still in grade school. This religious mania is puting a strain on my parents' marriage (I've even heard them treaten to divorce, and they've had 4-hour long arguments several times) and they do it RIGHT SMACK DAB IN FRONT OF MY YOUNGER SIBLINGS. My little sister who used to get upset about it, now just sits there unphased even when my mom gets in my dad's face. AS A 19-YEAR OLD ADULT, TO SEE A...
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Re: Feminist, Masculinist, or Other

FireFly ·
Touche, Black Viking, Touche! however... maybe there's a little truth in that... maybe that's where feminists came from... women who were surrounded by male dominance - physical, mental, language, customs, sexuality, society, work culture etc. - and women had to fight for the right not to be 'invisible' whether it was to have paid work or author a book under their own name not a male pseudonym. Women have always had to use a mix of assertiveness and female cunning to survive a male-dominated...
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

Jaco ·
It's actually fairly obvious what the most probable situation was. "Nigga" is an widely used slang word amongst non-racist teenagers, I know because I am a teenager. I for one do not have any trouble believing that this word is in frequent use by students in the class in question. In that case, to use the word in a mocking manner, to critique the language which is often coupled with a specific attitude, one which requires teachers to have to remind students to do simple tasks like sitting...
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

sunnubian ·
___________________________________________ There is no excuse in the world that an educated professional, and teacher on top of that, in charge of teaching and educating minors has for using this word. He can attempt to explain and excuse his use of the word all he wants, but he knows, and we all know that it was his intent to be able to call an African American a nigger and get away with it. I'll bet he's never called a 6ft-200+lb African American adult male 'nigga'---I'll be his better...
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

Nmaginate ·
JACO! The whole point here is that YOU GETS NOWHERE WITH YOUR FAULTY LOGIC, idiotic Circular Reasoning and Anal ABSTRACTIONS! First, foremost and ALWAYS... THE TEACHER'S INTENT IS IRRELEVANT! INTENT defines nor determines NOTHING! INTENT is not the End All, Be All of anything. As the saying goes, The Road To Hell Is Paved With Good Intentions. The Teacher's INTENT is IRRELEVANT because: Put simply... whatever the two parties involved in conversation perceive the meaning of a word to be,...
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

Nmaginate ·
Dude, you didn't come here under the pretense that you were presenting a WHITE PERSPECTIVE. You tried to feign objectivity. Now make up your fuckin' mind what your approach is before you open your mouth. First, you haven't, can't and won't be able to detail how the teacher was "WRONGFULLY ACCUSED". You've went about this predetermined process of GIVING HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT which heavily prejudiced every Got-Damn thing you said. You have taken this teacher's side with no just cause.
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Re: Teacher suspended for ten days, after calling student Nigga!

nayo ·
""don't buy that rhetoric. And beyond that, many of the very people who make that argument aren't so keen at recognizing or attacking actual material elements that function as "tools that maintain White Supremacy/Racism." I maintain that the focus on the N-Word is DWELLING ON THE SUPERFICIAL. __________________________________________ I do'nt believe that we disagree entirely here. You assume that that is my focal/focus for all things 'white supremacist'--- 'the 'N' word'; that is patently...
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Re: Cognitive dissonance and the black woman

Khalliqa ·
Well now... brother... sigh.... A Degree... in this world signifies someone who is marketable to this established system and thus more likely to offer security through the likelihood of job placement.... "He has the ability to provide some financial security".... Just because a brother is intelligent does not present the likelihood that he will use his intelligence to forge a way in this world..... those "Good Will Hunting" brothers I spoke of? Are usually broke.... I just happen to not care...
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Re: David Irving Arrested For 'Denying Holocaust'

Empty Purnata ·
Well, actually David Irving didn't "deny" the Holocaust (which is why I put those symbols around "deny holocaust". He said that 2.7 million Jews died instead of 6 million. What I find offensive about the Holocaust is that Zionists try to claim that the Holocaust was worse than African slavery, and they cruise over the fact that 6 million non-Jewish minorities were killed in concentration camps by the Nazis during WWII. 6 million German Blacks, Mulattos, Gypsies (Rroma), Poles, Asians,...
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Re: You Negroes Quit Whining, look how Oprah lives...which proves everything is fine

Nmaginate ·
It's the same rhetoric ignorant Black and White people (willed or innocently ignorant) use to try to deal with the Cognitive Dissonance or whatever the hell their malfunction is. Ummm... Excuse me Mr. Elders, but MLK never stopped "complaining about the poor conditions under which minorities lived." He's like the clueless and rationalizing Whites who didn't realize Dr. King had these types of things to say at those "inconvenient" and "impolite" moments: Elder needs to study King and give a...
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Re: The Left Hand of God

HonestBrother ·
What the hell do you call prayer in school? or demanding "equal time" for Creationism in science classes but politicizing religion???? Speaking as a teacher, people have ALWAYS been free to pray in the classroom. What's not going to happen is me leading them. I don't see why I should try overly hard to speak as an adult to mental children... The political right's brand of religion is poisonous and it needs to be neutralized.
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Re: The Five Major African Initiation Rites

Rowe ·
The five initiation rites discusesd in this synopsis, desparately, need to be restored in our communities. Thanks for posting! I truly enjoyed reading this.
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Re: People of Color' are All One? Latino Inmates in L.A. Don't Think So

Dissident ·
***long Sigh*** Black people don't have any allies. Nor does any other group want to be our allies. Asians, Whites, Hispanics and any other group for that matter only want to be our allies when it serves their interest . The world has never worked the way you perceive it. This is the cold hard truth. Why can't you comprehend this, Black Viking? I thought we went over this before. And why are the misguided like yourself so concerned about how other people perceive Black folk with your...
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Re: People of Color' are All One? Latino Inmates in L.A. Don't Think So

Black Viking ·
Dissident, you have a unique talent for completely missing the point, while overstating the brutally obvious. What you just stated above has always been true and has not ever been in dispute. You don't have the first clue how I perceive the world. Don't project what you think I perceive/believe and then use it as a basis for your pathetic arguments. We did. Although then, as now, you had mistaken me for someone who cares about what you think. You see, this is exactly what I mean. What the...
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Re: Is This on Point?

Black Viking ·
I'll vote on each part individually. On Point. On Point. Not quite. Girls and grown women always know when you haven't called them. But, grown women know that "checking" only drives a man away. On Point. No... girls do both of these things. Grown women are more carefull about choosing their partners. Therefore, good sex is a priority. A grown woman is more likely to choose a path that will produce better sex next time, or this time for that matter. On Point. On Point. No... girls only make...
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Re: Cognitive dissonance and the black woman

HonestBrother ·
I am an educator. I am a scientist. My job is to teach my students to think clearly and logically about fact. Instead I deal with people - OUR people - whose minds are tied down with USELESS doctrines - young people with so much promise and talent talking about the Book of Revelation - End Times - The END OF THE WORLD - religious mythology - poppycock - as if it were fact - when in fact it's a waste of mental energy.
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

Frenchy ·
Is "love making" equivalent to sex? If so, good sex requires skill. Not necessarily physical skills/technique. Especially if the subject is restricted to bringing a woman to climax (not sure men can climax without nary a touch), because sex is sort of the ending for us. A large part of whether or not we have an orgasm depends on the length and intensity of the foreplay (the mental and physical teasing and tenderness and the being alternately indulged and ordered about and I've got to get the...
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

Black Viking ·
I'm going to agree with you here Kai, in a sense. Good sex does require skill, but that skill is 90% mental and only 10% physical. Something about women that many men never realize is that their most powerfull sexual organ is their brain. If a man skillfully stimulates a woman's brain, her body can and will do amazing things without much more help from him. Ok, I'm stepping out of this thread now, before I get myself into trouble...
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

Kai ·
Good question. Not necessarily. Completely casual sex has different rules. Interesting. I will not disagree with you assessment, I will disagree with your view of time. Perhaps everything that usually takes hours, or months, can be acheived in a very intense moment. If sex is the end game, then perhaps one adept at the game will find a more direct route to checking his mate. Once again, effective foreplay can happen in the check out line at the local grocery store. There is something primal...
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

EbonyRose ·
Wow ... this was really a tough one! I had to actually use a couple of brain cells to come to a conclusion! But, at the end of the day, I would say yes, there's definitely more to sex than technique. And, no, a man cannot be completely unskilled and still bring his woman to a climax! There's a definite difference between making love and sex ... whether casual or not! Two people in love can still have sex. But, as the fellas have already stated, so much of a woman's physical satisfaction is...
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

Kai ·
Peace.... Black Viking wrote: Yep.... A very powerful stimulus...Will trigger a very powerful response... Kai
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Re: Does good love making require skill?

Kai ·
Peace.... Rowe wrote: In the beginning of most relationships, their is an over abundance of sincerity, caring, and passion. as Black Viking has indicated, these elements feed the quality of intimacy. In the beginning, the slightest caress, or a gentle stare, can arouse a partner. Once we become common with one another, we tend to replace the mental stimulants, with physical ones...And so enters physical skill and all of the pressure associated with a good performance. Kai
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Re: Untitled--Just Disappointed and Upset

Rowe ·
Thank you sister Fine for sharing your experience and advice. However, I am sorry to report that the relationship that I had with my sister has in fact worsened. I no longer speak to her and she no longer speaks to me. It has been this way for weeks now. Oddly enough, I've become quite comfortable with our relationship as it is today. You see I've never been an altruistic "save the world" kind of person. I'm the type of person who doesn't waste my time tyring to convince people to accept...
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Re: Marcus Garvey and Iraq

Dusty Elbow ·
"The battles of the future, whether they be physical or mental, will be fought on scientific lines, and the race that is able to produce the highest scientific development, is the race that will ultimately rule." This quote sums up this post for me. The Iraqi decision maker is Pres. Bush and UK Prime Minister Blair. They have the power to make a call on ending it. So Garvey put it as science is a practically a tool. It could be used for uplifting or destructive purposes. So far destructive...
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Re: I'm In Love With A Stripper?

HonestBrother ·
Girls, Girls, Girls Motley Crue Friday night and I need a fight My motorcycle and a switchblade knife Handful of grease in my hair feels right But what I need to get me tight are Girls, girls, girls Long legs and burgundy lips Girls, girls, girls Dancin' down on the sunset strip Girls, girls, girls Red lips, fingertips Trick or treat--sweet to eat On halloween and new year's eve Yankee girls ya just can't be beat But you're the best when you're off their feet Girls, girls, girls At the...
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Re: Marcus Garvey Was A Colonialist

Nmaginate ·
This seems like a pretty good source (you can provide yours)...
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

Shango67 ·
Reality is a construct and "mandatory schooling" can be abolished with organization. I, for one, would definitely work toward that goal if it was presented to me. Until then, I agree, reform is all we have. This is problematic in ALL types of schools - not just alternative learning environments. The emphasis on including mental health professionals at any school, traditional or otherwise, is a key component in addressing the issues you raised. Our children come to school with a host of...
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

Empty Purnata ·
LOL, a Buddhist or Hindu would say that they are BOTH psycho-mental constructs.
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

Kweli4Real ·
So would Morpheus [of the Matrix]
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

umbrarchist ·
You will notice that Morpheus had his a$$ runnin' from the sentinels when he was in physical reality. umbra
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

Shango67 ·
MBM When I talked about the HBCU's, I was speaking in the context of building upon the institutions that may be able to support Black folks who decided to pursue higher education. I was speaking in the context that Black folks use HBCU's and reject the notion that our best, brightest, and gifted scholars must have their scholarship validated by Harvard, Yale, Stanford, Princeton, etc... There is no reason why a cure for cancer can't come from a Black student enrolled at Howard Medical. For...
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Re: College "Education" Is BS

MidLifeMan ·
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