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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

RadioRaheem ·
Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women
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Re: Are You Afraid To Die?

James Wesley Chester ·
There is an apprehension. I don't look forward to it, though as I've said on this board, I really thought I would be dead by 50. I have a friend who always says he wants to die quietly in his sleep like his father, and not kicking and screaming like the other three guys who were in the car with him. PEACE Jim Chester
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Kevin41 ·
I wonder why there is sooo much laughter when the guy speaks.....I guess it is hard to take a tom serious....when you know their first and foremost motive is to defend the stats quo and their white masters....I thought the term conservative idiot applied here......... My dad's barbershop ...byLarry Elder and personal responsibility -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: December 29, 2005 1:00 a.m. Eastern Editor's note: The following column...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
Based upon the onus you place on their backs, why do you call them "victims"? Please explain. A woman has been repeatedly abused by her husband over the years. She walks into the police station, finally, seeking protection and relief. CF looks at her and says, "What are you prepared to do to change to help your situation?" First of all - she has taken the first step and is at the damned police station. Second of all, that she has survived as long as she has is a testament to her personal...
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Re: Are You Afraid To Die?

Sandye ·
I am not afraid to die at all. I do think about the grief that my family will feel when I am no longer physically present with them. I think of death as transitional as I believe spirits to be eternal. My beloved Father is no longer on this earth, but I feel his presence with me and feel his love for me in my heart.
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

sunnubian ·
I get so sick and tired of hearing this bs from this republican lawn jockey. He acts as if HIS father is the only Black person or Black man who did ALL these things in a racist society. Millions of Black people in America did the same things he says his father did, accomplished the same things, his father did, served in WWI/WWII/Vietnam/Etc., and did so in the mist of a racist nation with the only difference being other Black people go to work every day, graduate from school (or get a...
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Re: 2005--In Loving Memory Of....

Fine ·
Thx folobatuyi and HonestBrother. LOL--I have a revision: AITKEN, LAUREL/78 -- JAMAICAN SINGER BENNETT-SATTLER, JUDITH/54 -- ABUSE AGENCY LEADER BAIRD, HARRY/74 -- BRITISH ACTOR BAUGH, CECIL/96 -- JAMAICAN POTTER BENSON, RENALDO "OBIE"/69 -- MEMBER OF THE FOUR TOPS GROUP BENTLEY, LAMONT/31 -- ACTOR BERESFORD, RANDOLPH/91 -- BRITISH MAYOR OF HAMMERSMITH AND FULHAM BROWN JR., OSCAR/78 -- SINGER/SONWRITER/ACTOR/PLAYWRIGHT CAMPBELL, LITTLE MILTON/70 -- BLUES ARTIST CARGILLE, PETER/41 -- JAMAICAN...
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Re: The Holy Spirit Was Originally The Feminine Side Of God

Melesi ·
Sometimes the two concepts confused in this discussion (not this one specifically but this issue) is linguistic gender and biological sex. One cannot argue from the first to the second. A very funny treatment of this and several other like issues in language can be found in Mark Twain's essay "The Awful German Language." Seriously, however, in languages where every noun is assigned a gender (which is most of them. Interestingly, English has rid itself of almost all gender-references, and yet...
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Guest ·
The key distinction is OWNERSHIP AND POWER. Those who have both SEEK TO PROTECT THEIR POSSESSION. Those who don't have them seek to LIBERALIZE the rules and have more of these resources to flow their way. When it comes to international aide and financing the liberalist American sounds very CONSERVATIVE. When it comes to understanding the plight of the Mexican father to depart his family and come to the United States illegally in order to work and feed his family it seems that many of you are...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
On its face, it doesn't sound like bad advice, but the more I think about it, something is off. The overwhelming sense is "You are not really a part of this family. Be prepared to be bounced out of the picture at whim and get the short end of the stick. And don't gripe about it." Which is somewhat understandable in the beginning, but seems insane for anything that goes beyond a few months. I just don't quite see how that's a healthy situation. At some point, there has to be equal dedication...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

MidLifeMan ·
Not really. Having dated women with children and known them I think it is wise for a person to keep the parenting and relationship separate until it is clear that the relationship will be for the long haul. The main concern is for the child. If the single parent continues to introduce people to the child as a "potential" parent and the relationship ends as they can and do, it could have an impact on the child. And I personally don't have respect for a woman that would place a stranger above...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Frenchy ·
Don't most people know that after a few months? I certainly do. Unless you mean to say that you should wait to until you are on the verge of getting married to this person before you introduce them to your child(ren). Which I don't agree with. What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy. And you certainly shouldn't...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Black Viking ·
I'm in total agreement with that point. It would seem silly to allow your child to show less respect to your date than you would allow them to show to a stranger.
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

UppityNegress ·
OK, I will entertain this idea. Please explain how giving sufficient painkillers to some Black kid with a broken arm will threaten those in power? Please explain what benefit the American health system has in providing a lower level of medical care Blacks? I'm surprised you haven't argued the other way, b/c more healthy people equals less time lost on jobs, less time spent on unemployment or disability funds, and more productivity all around. That in turn equals more money flowing through...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

Sandye ·
The article makes several good points, however, I think it sugarcoats the "baby mama/daddy drama" that affects many of these types of relationships. When a couple have a child, there is an eternal connection. Even though they no longer wish to have a relationship with the other parent, they play vicious games and can cause great pain perhaps because they are still going through the pain of their separation/divorce. Some biological parents won't speak to the step-parent for any reason and are...
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Re: Sago Mine Explosion - Another Bushco Production?

Isome ·
Secretary of Labor Elaine Chao, a woman of color , used the expected rightwing half-truth tactic to defend the administration's record on mine safety enforcement. She said that federal inspectors had "increased their inspections [at the Sago mine] by about 84 percent." That's only half true . Though inspectors increased their inspections at Sago, what Chao didn't say was that the inspections clearly documented the unsafe conditions at the mine: Nearly half of the 208 safety citations levied...
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Re: Prove Christ exists, judge orders priest

HonestBrother ·
I wonder what they'll be writing about 2Pac 2000 years from now....
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Blacksanction ·
MLM I believe that it depends on the persons who are making the love connection. We all bring baggage to a relationship (some bring more than others). Example some white women might pick a black man because she was abused by white guys in her previous relationships. Some black women have done the reverse and if you interviewed both would say that it is because they are treated with respect. I am still trying to figure out one of my wife's friends who was married and had four children. She...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

HonestBrother ·
Issues? like? In my experience you're right on the mark.
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

qty226 ·
Interesting..... I dont understand how can she stop her child, from 'acting white'........when the childs father is white. Too bad i missed that show.......
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Re: Now Speaking of an Endless Loop Cycle of Poverty, Heavy Dependence on Social Welfare

Michael ·
"Former Aide's Guilty Plea Implicates Congressman Brett M. Pfeffer details conspiracy and bribery claims against Democrat William J. Jefferson. By Ralph Vartabedian Times Staff Writer January 12, 2006 Rep. William J. Jefferson (D-La.) sought bribes, jobs for his children and other favors for providing political support to a company setting up Internet service in Nigeria, according to a former aide's guilty plea, entered Wednesday in federal court in Alexandria, Va. In an alleged conspiracy,...
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Re: Negroes who defend the status quo once they've "gotten theirs"

Michael ·
...the legacy of AA, Social Welfare, our disgraceful elected representatives, and/or that no good Black middleclass who praise them. .....and pat yourself on the back if you've distanced yourself from that inept, sleazy, worthless no good Black middleclass..... ********************************** "Former Aide's Guilty Plea Implicates Congressman Brett M. Pfeffer details conspiracy and bribery claims against Democrat William J. Jefferson. By Ralph Vartabedian Times Staff Writer January 12,...
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Re: The Bridge: Black Men & White Women (article)

Black Viking ·
I saw the show. It was very interesting to me because I'm bi-racial. The question that kept comming to me about that mother was, "How do you act white? Is there a specific way that white people act?" The mother also said she thought her daughter wasn't black enough. So, of course, similar questions present themselves,"How black is black enough? How does one portray blackness?" I think the mother's unaddressed problem is that her daughter is more than half-white. She has very Aryan features...
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Re: No one Else Wants to be a Victim

MidLifeMan ·
Everyone thought is father was joking when he said, "this is a New World Order". These m*utherf*ckers are not playing....
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Re: Now Speaking of an Endless Loop Cycle of Poverty, Heavy Dependence on Social Welfare

Michael ·
I've lived in predominate Black communities, such as Oakland, Detroit, Baltimore, Compton, Watts, and South Central Los Angeles (when it was predominately Black), the working class community of Inglewood, West of La Brea when it was predominately Caucasian, stayed with a Canadian Caucasian farm family during my youth while with other family members, an integrated community such as West Adams where I continue to live until this day...... .......to which in every instance the predominately...
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Re: Do Fathers Have rights???

Sweetwuzzy ·
Yes
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Re: Do Fathers Have rights???

SistahSouljah ·
The father should be told. Where it goes beyond that...I don't know. Fathers have rights and yes they seem to be limited in today's society. The thing that gets to me is when a guy abandons a kid for years then one day shows up like ta-da "I want to have say on this that and the other". WHERE THE HELL WERE YOU back in the day? Don't show up now and get parental! And the only reason why this is tripping me out is because the father of my baby did the same. Never bought a damn thing and barely...
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Re: Racism Out Of "Racism-Deniers"

Kweli4Real ·
In a recent departmental "Team-Building" exercise, we were asked to articulate our "Civil Rights Dream." Everyone gave the pat "I dream of the day when all people are treated fairly, with dignity and respect" or "I dream for the day when there is no longer a need for our department." And, everyone's head was bobbing, "Yep, Yep." Well, at least until they got to me, the only Black male in the division [well, there's one other, but he racially identifies with his white italian mother rather...
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Re: Do Fathers Have rights???

MidLifeMan ·
What if it was the other way around. What if a a mother went away and then came back. Chances are she could receive custody - remember t6he movie. Kramer vs Kramer One of my wifes friends has a 11 year old son. She has never told the father of this child existence.
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Re: House of Representative is like a Plantation...

MBM ·
I think the point that she was trying to make is just that the Republiocan leadership runs roughshod over anything and anyone that does not explicitly support Republican objecitves. For ecxample, seeing the extraordinary difference in how Republicans went after her husband because he lied about consensual sex versus how they turn their eyes from criminal behavior in the current Whitehouse that has contradicted the Constitution and Bill of Rights, as well as law.
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Re: House of Representative is like a Plantation...

Faheem ·
There is no watering over her analogy, there is nothing she can say or for that matter you can say that can juxtapose rich folk and bureaucracy with the way Plantations were run. While Plantation reality contradicted parts of the constitution, local and state law were in accordance with Plantation life. Plantation realities were far more than violations of parts of the constitution and I do not believe her analogy makes sense and lessens the impact of the role of Plantation in our...
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Re: Do Fathers Have rights???

Frenchy ·
Yes, I think the father should be told. However, some men are very vocal about not wanting anything to do with any potential pregnancy, so I can understand women who just make the decision alone to have an abortion (or raise the child without a father).
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
EVEN MORE!! http://www.sptimes.com/2004/10/02/Floridian/More_responses_to__Do.shtml More responses to "Do Black Men Still Want Us?" Spirited comments about romantic options and worries Letters to the Editor Published October 2, 2004 Where is the love? A magazine asks whether black men still desire black women. Eight men offer their answers. Black women speak out Earlier this week, African-American men answered women's question "Do Black Men Still Want Us?' Now women discuss their romantic...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
My take on Part One:...in bold When elementary school teacher Patti Hairston picked up Monday's edition of the St. Petersburg Times, she braced herself. "I knew there would be negative things said about black women by black men," she said. very interesting, esp. since the writer of the original article was merely seeking the 'other side' of the Essence article. Lori Chung, 28, associate TV news producer, single, Brooklyn Personally, I don't feel the love from black men to black women and...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

RadioRaheem ·
My Take on part two..in bold http://www.sptimes.com/2004/10/02/Floridian/More_responses_to__Do.shtml Andre King Great article on the status of black man/woman relationships. I don't think that that is the end of the black man's opinion on this, however. Even though there were a variety of opinions on the subject, most of them seemed little more than simple preferences. And that is what I think all of this boils down to. If I were to date a woman of another race, I would date her because I...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

HonestBrother ·
You keep waffling here. Are you saying that you want to be able to fantasize about getting these men or are you honest to goodness really wanting the right to hold out for the status-symbol-trophy-husband? Fantasies are free. And you have the right do hold out for whatever you want anyway. If that's what you're about then you just have to ignore what people say. But if what you're really saying is that this what to shoot for then I know I'm going to get a lot of hate for what I'm about to...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Sweetwuzzy ·
I still think you are missing the point. I believe Frenchy is complaining that women get dogged for wanting a particular guy (whether it be "the cream of the crop" or not) while guys are not dogged for wanting a particular women (whether it be the "cream of the crop" or not)
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Sweetwuzzy ·
I agree with you. Some women seem to put men into two categories. This is only going to lead to women being lonley due to excessively high standards.
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

bigddouble ·
Honest & AG - The three of us have said the same thing to the ladies. No one is denying fantasy. But the reality is that everyone can't be a high social status, high income, buff, male idol. Please substitute the female analogues for those of you that still haven't realized I'm speaking about men & women. This means, somebody has to date & marry the "every Jane/Joes". Men have an easier time, IMO, accepting this fact. I'm glad my mom wasn't such an elitest. Otherwise, I might not...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
I'm not waffling. I've been saying the same thing repeatedly. You are just not trying to read what is written. Neither. *Sigh* Black women deserve to be able to consider the "cream of the crop" as a viable dating and marriage option without being lectured about lowering standards/"being more realistic"/etc. I've broken it down into scenarios before, but apparently no one reads them or you can't see past the word "Denzel" without going off on a tangent. Last time. Scenario A Man: I want to...
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Re: Bible = The Word of God?

nubian1125 ·
I believe jesus is the word of GOD.Yeshua/Jesus has to be taken out of false light that he is being held in. Black christians take and get alot of heat. But i believe the foundation of that is because of the image of Yeshua, in our hearts we don't see him as one of us, one that looked like us or been through what we been through. When in fact he is as close to us as any as our brothers and sisters are today. Moses said that GOD WILL RISE UP A PROPHET LIKE MYSELF, when the people asked moses...
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Re: father claims rights denied

MidLifeMan ·
And this means that the other parent "complies" with the court order? Just becasue the court says the father has rights to see the child doesn't mean the mother complies no more then when the court orders the father to pay child support that he complies. And it can get expensive taking someone to court all the time to fight for you rights. Any why is that? I'm sure most may say it is not the norm but I watch my brother in law get f*cked by the courts. And he DID provide ALL of the childrens...
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Re: father claims rights denied

bigddouble ·
The problem is that there is no accountability for the money paid via child support. The custodial parent does not have to prove they are using the garnishment exclusively for the care of the children. I think the custodial parent should have to produce receipts, verifying proper usage of the support payment. Additionally, anytime the custodial parent wants to request a change in custody status or support payments, you have to show up (with representation if you don't want to get screwed) or...
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
_________________________________________________________________________ Often this may be the case when there has been a long marriage and an agreement for the wife to be a stay at home mom, etc., the court takes into consideration the number of years the wife could have been either educating herself and/or working, but instead stayed at home and maintained the household and raised the children while the husband worked and establish an avenue of independent livelihood outside the home.
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Nikcara: "Good fathers get truly screwed because they want their kids but the mothers use the children as pawn for money. It is totally discretionary for the mother." -------------------------------------------- This is not a totally true statement, though I am sure, no I know that there are some mothers out there like that, but usually, court ordered childsupport has a formula for computing childsupport, which takes into consideration both parents incomes which...
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Re: The Elephant in the Room While Black Kids Misbehave? Single Parent Homes

Guest ·
Maybe the PRIMARY CONCERN OF HIS IS BLACK PEOPLE AND THUS HE DOES NOT NEED TO TALK ABOUT WHITE FOLKS!!!!! Why must Black people reference White folks as guidance on what we should be doing? Is it possible for us to have certain policies and standards that are free and clear of them? I am a parent. I have associates and family members who are either single parents or teenaged parents. It is hard for me and my wife to raise our children. I can only empathize with the burden that single parents...
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Re: I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa

Frenchy ·
"The point is NOT that "janitors aint shit" or however else things were apparently interpreted." (-Frenchy, 1/19/06, 6:10 PM, Page 2) "And I would take a nice, respectful Plain Joe over a Denzel any day of the week. But that's not the issue. " (-Frenchy, 1/19/06, 7:32 PM, Page 2) "I am not talking about the merits of a blue collar man. There's nothing wrong with a janitor or whatever else. I've expressed that several times now." (-Frenchy, 1/20/06, 5:43 PM, Page 2) "This is NOT about...
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Re: How to Date A Single Dad

ma'am ·
A single-father of two recently asked me out. It was only out to dinner, but I heard to be a mother. I would have had his oldest at 16 if were his mother. He had him at 17 when he was born, but still. It was cool that he was such a devoted father when he just wanted to be friends. It was all too weird when he wanted me to be his date. I always thought I was open, but I suppose the situation is different once you're in it.
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Re: father claims rights denied

Nikcara ·
By Sunnubian I am not sure where you practice law, but in NJ, child support is calculated based on both incomes, thereafter, the non-custodial parent, pays in cash or check directly to the cusotidal parent or to the child support office[in NJ it is called the Probation Department], who converts the cash into a check that is either deposited directly into the custodial parent's account or mailed to him or her. The Custodial Parent has the discretion to spend the money as he or she see fit.
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Re: father claims rights denied

sunnubian ·
"I am not sure where you practice law, but in NJ, child support is calculated based on both incomes," ----------------------------------------------- I could have sworn that I stated that, but anyway, since that is how it is caculated, how can it be unfair to either party, especially to him or whichever parent does not actually have the children? -------------------------------------------- "thereafter, the non-custodial parent, pays in cash or check directly to the cusotidal parent or to...
 
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