quote:Originally posted by donna12:
AGAIN, THIS IS THE ORIGINAL DONNA529, COMING BACK AS DONNA 12 (DONT ASK),
ANYWAY, AS WOMEN WE TEND TO HAVE AN MENTAL LIST OF WHAT WE WANT IN A MAN, AND SOME OF US TEND TO TRY TO MAKE OUR MEN THAT WAY, AND THEN GET FRUSTRATED WHEN THEY DO NOT RESPOND THE WAY WE WANT THEM TO.
I've got my own spirituality ... What I want from my woman is for her to be my woman - not my spiritual guide ... What you should want in a man is that he "treats others as he wants to be treated." ... not that he "believes" in x, y, and, z ... Plenty of people "believe" in x, y, and z and still behave like devils ...
If you have a black man who has grown up in this world, has managed to avoid all the pitfalls set for him and to be successful, and is morally a good person, then you need to be thankful for whatever spirituality he already has that has allowed him to survive and prosper ... instead of trying to force your ideas upon a grown ass man that - if he's worth anything - should have his own ideas anyway.
Gambit said it best:
quote:Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
Black women (and a few black men) tend to confuse spirituality with zealotry.
Spirituality is about loving people and bringing light and healing into the world. Zealotry is about forcing your ideas on everyone around you.
Spirituality is about doing unto others as you would have them do onto you. Zealotry is about doing onto others what was done to you.
Spirituality is about others and their needs. Zealotry is about you and your needs.
It reminds me of something I heard Michael Eric Dyson say ... "We should be spreading the love of Jesus in the world ... not the belief in Jesus."
I STILL LOVE YOU THOUGH LOL
And we still love you too, babe ...