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Reply to "Would Black women choose, date, or marry a brother who perms or straightens his hair?"

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Originally posted by Shango67:
At a recent gathering, I was chastised by several Black women for stating that I refused to consider / date / marry a sista who alters the texture of her hair. "If I wanted the aesthetics of a white woman, I would choose one." I was called all types of names. However, when I asked those same women if they would consider a brother who perms his hair, there was complete silence.

Why the contradiction? Why the hypocrisy? Why come the majority of sistas ignore the backward ass legacy of the hot comb? When will our women stand up and confront the pathology? And can we EVER have a honest discussion with Black women about this issue?


I'm wondering whether you would also refuse to date a down to earth, intelligent, strong Black women who altered to the texture of her hair to be more kinky? Some Black women are born with wavy or curly hair that doesn't grow well into a 'fro. Would going to a salon to make her hair more 'fro worthy lessen her in your eyes? Just playing devil's advocate here. I think I understand what you mean, though: I have always found this insistence upon having straight or "good" hair bewildering, and throughout most of my adolescence refuse to perm or straighten my hair to conform to some whacked out ideal. Is it the act of changing the texture itself, or the texture of choice that you find unappealing?
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