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Reply to "Would Black women choose, date, or marry a brother who perms or straightens his hair?"

Okay, let me just be blunt ... but I hope not offensive to anyone. sck I will state now that it is not my intention to be, and I apologize for any hurt feelings this may cause right up front.

But, in my experience and circle of friends, the "other considerations" list that virtue posted above is much closer to the reasoning of Black women than that psycho-babble crap about self-loathing!! I mean, please!

How a man is going to sit and pass judgment and interpret personal preferences of the reasons why women style their hair the way the do is just beyond incomprehensible to me!! Eek And more than a little on the self-righteous side! An opinion is one thing ... but a general blanket aspersion is quite another!!

For most of the Black women I know, the way she styles her hair is a matter of personal preference or ease of care. To intimate that a woman does not know or is not mentally capable of knowing or is not responsible for her own personal preference (whether in hair or any other matter) based on some phantom perception of European-accepted sense of style and beauty is insulting!! A Black woman who determines anything about herself in an attempt to please society's warped sense what is right/wrong, good/bad, has deeper issues than anything her hairstyle may say about her!! I mean, pulleeeezz.

Statements and thoughts like the one depicted by Shango67 here go much farther to disrespect the intellect and the determination of self-worth of the Black woman than half of what some White people may say or think. I mean, maybe ... just maybe ... the majority of Black women perm or straighten their hair because they like it that way, it's what they want to do and it is their personal preference to do so!! Eek

I would submit that that's probably the reason why women who wear their hair naturally do so ... are they the only ones who deserve to be recognized (and respected) for having a mind of their own??

I certainly don't begrudge Shango67 his preference in the type of women he's attracted to ... but leave it as a personal preference ... not some mind-reading determination of Black women in general!
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