I think this is getting into something that is inherent to feminine psychology.
Women maintain and propagete the culture be it good or bad charactericts of the culture. Little girls adopt the emotional thinking of their mothers. How many Black women use Tide detergent? Ask them if their mothers used Tide. I think women with dark complexions that put blusher on their cheeks look ridiculous. They really couldn't blush if their lives depended on it. I asked my mother if I should tell them this. She said, "No , you can't tell them. The way she said it cracked me up.
I wonder how many Black men are involved with non-Black women not because of beauty but because they are sick of neurotic bullsh!t. I grew up with two older sisters. I was thinking Black girls had an inferiority complex about beauty before I graduated from grammar school. Then we have to deal with the denial. I remember my mother using the ironing comb on my sisters' hair. I was sitting in the kitchen staring at this comb on the stove. I was thinking, "Damn, that thing must be hot." Then my mother picked it up to use it on one of my sisters. Zzooommmm! I was gone. I was out of the kitchen. You think you are going to change the emotional programming of a woman that went thru that as a little girl. Forget it!
Men are more inclined to change but it presents the problem of dealing with women that refuse to change. It takes massive traumatic events to get millions of people to change.
We need to produce people who can allow there intellects ot override their emotions.