I agree.....quote:Originally posted by Yemaya:
The reason that a sister won't date or marry a brother with a perm is because there is a presumption that he is effemanate or is gay. I certainly know that's what I'm thinking when I see a brother with chemicals in his hair.
quote:I've had a natural for 6 years now and I love it. However, I don't get much play from the brothers. That's ok. Even before I let my hair go back to its natural state more West Indian and African men were attracted to me than African-American men. This hasn't changed since I changed my hair.
That's funny... (as in unusual)....
I received more attention from African men when I wore a perm..... (perhaps because westernized versions of beauty are becoming more and more entrenched in the culture...)
I've received more attention from African-American men and Indian men since I've been natural....
I always get asked where I'm from..... it seems that men prefer an exotic look... or at least that's my experience....
Peace,
Virtue