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Reply to "Would Black women choose, date, or marry a brother who perms or straightens his hair?"

That's your choice if you chose to date or marry a sista with a natural. I think that comment about the aesthetics of a white woman got you in trouble. Just because a sister has a relaxer doesn't mean that that she looks white or is even trying to look white. The reality of it is if you are black there isn't much you can do to look white. Its just not possible.
The reason that a sister won't date or marry a brother with a perm is because there is a presumption that he is effemanate or is gay. I certainly know that's what I'm thinking when I see a brother with chemicals in his hair.
I've had a natural for 6 years now and I love it. However, I don't get much play from the brothers. That's ok. Even before I let my hair go back to its natural state more West Indian and African men were attracted to me than African-American men. This hasn't changed since I changed my hair.
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