WOW. I've been gone for a while...and you guys still haven't figured this out. I'll give you a clue:
Years ago, when I was single in Detroit; whenever a Sista' I was interested in wanted to put me down nicely. (And, they ALL put me down. Many, not so nicely.) There was one sentence they used. It was this:
"You'd make a great husband and father, but NOT a good boyfriend. I don't want that now, but later I will."
When you fully comprehend what the sentence means and implies, then you may understand the true nature of the conflict within modern-day male/female relations.