Women do the choosing. She chooses to let you bring your game, or she chooses to shut you down immediately. Or she chooses to shut you down tomorrow, or next week, or next year. She has complete control of this game because she made the rules. The challenge for men is to first learn the rules (because she won't tell you what they are), then play by the rules (without letting our ego push us out of bounds), and still find a way to score points!
Consider this...How often do men get rejected by women? Constantly. Now, how often do women get rejected by men? Almost never.
Sigh...I love women. No other creature on Earth could make a man completely crazy, and have him actually enjoy it.