quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:
But, I am curious about what part of our psyche has a problem with this arrangement "when the bills come in". Why does the woman making more money, thus paying more of the bills, equal incompatability?
TRADITIONAL ROLES WERE SET IN PLACE FOR A REASON
Oh my , I'm beginning to see why modern marriages are wrought with so many problems! Think about this: If a woman is paying the weight of the household bills, which means the family's livelihood is largely dependent on her stream of income, what do you suppose will happen once she becomes pregnant and must take maternity leave? What if the couple unexpectedly has twins, or triplets, and consequently decides that it's just better for the mother to take maternity leave indefinitely? Now the husband will have to obtain the job(s) that he should have had in the first place. Therefore, he's not escaped the responsibility of playing the conventional role of family provider. Because a woman is solely responsible for carrying and nursing children, it should NOT be her responsibility to also work like a slave to support the family. Being a mother is already a full-time job. And I think once we start giving our young people the impression that it's alright for men to be in a relationship where his family's livelihood is largely dependent on women, we're in serious trouble.
I understand your point Sister Rowe, and I don't disagree with it. My question was leading to the repercussions of merging lifestyles.
If a woman makes 80k a year, and she marries a man who makes 40k, then when she goes through maternity everyone has to live on 40k. This is completely possible to do, if people (particularly the woman, in this case) are willing to submit to a lower standard of living for the sake of the child. It seems silly to me for a family to lose even part of it's income, while taking on another mouth to feed, and expect to live the same lifestyle they did before. It doesn't even really matter how much money we're talking about here (unless we're talking about multi-millionaires).