quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
BTW, my only point was that if I'm making $80K/yr why is it that I can't date or even marry someone making $100/yr? Some insist on the man always being on top regardless...
I think this point sort of trivalizes the issue. Obviously, if a man is making $80,000 annually, he is more than capable of supporting his family, at least until mom has had a chance to nurse and to heal from the physical trauma of labor. In this instance, the difference between his income and his wife's income is insignificant. The problem is, however, most African-American families do not enjoy a $180,000 household income. Most single African-Americans don't even earn half that amount, especially those residing in urban communities. So this is why a man's economic status is important.
quote:I really doubt if modern marriage is in trouble because women are making more money (within a marriage). In fact, one can argue that modern marriage is more threatened by the fact that women can work outside the household at all. I.e., women have more options. Since thy can support themselves they don't have to stay in unhappy situations (I think of my own mother as an example.
I agree with you. The wife works, the husband works (both of them sometimes working overtime hours), and children get neglected. Eventually, what started out as a loving marriage evolves into a situation where two roommates are merely working to support one another and to maintain the lifestyle to which both spouses have grown accustomed.