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Reply to "What is your first race-based memory?"

Originally posted by jen1313:
My family is white. I grew up white, people call me white- Im white. Well, while looking through my grandparents family trees- I could NOT find anything on my grandmothers mothers side of the family. I kept digging and found that there is a HUGE chance that my grandmother was half black. When I asked my father if its possible that his mother was half black- his reaction was odd. He asked why does it matter and then told me to stop looking into it. Id love to hear any opinions on this-should I keep looking into it? I will either way- but Id like to hear some African American thoughts on the matter.

Pursue your 'need to know'.

Your decision after you know is always yours.

Knowing does not have to change the way you live your life.

As an example, I found out about four years ago that my paternal grandmother was 'half-European American.

It hasn't changed a thing in the way I live my life.

Nor do I routinely tell anyone.

I certainly do not 'say I'm 'white'.

I don't look it.

Does that mean I'm 'hiding' it.

I don't think so.

Tens of millions of people people hide their African American ancestry.

You decide.

Sometimes knowing helps.


Jim Chester