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Reply to "What Are Women Really Attracted To?"

ddouble said:

High social status has nothing to do love IMO. Someone that craves a person's status before considering getting involved is not concerned with love. You called it right - it's superficial. Which is as far away from love as you can get.
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I understand what you're saying, and, yes, I guess if a person gives little thought to a potential-mate's intrinsic qualities then they are cheating themselves out of a fullfilling & meaningful connection. However, many people feel that in order to have strong feelings for a potential-mate, a number of conditions has to be met (from the way he/she looks, talk, act, think, dress, smell-yes, that's right, SMELL- etc.); that is, to say there are certain "hurdles that a person has to clear" before we consider sharing our life with him/her (short or long-term). Many of us have these "hurdles" arranged differently such that, some of us will only have superficial & financial "hurdles"; others will only have intrinsic "hurdles"; and others would have a mixture of both. (Of course, bear in mind that social relativity is always at work here- i.e. what I consider intrinsic, another person may consider superficial, but anyway...) Romantic Love - like it or not - is a conscious decision that is determined by a person's ability to live up to the standards of the person in search of Love...standards that are, oftentimes, status-related.
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