Sista Sunnubian wrote:
The problems African America has with young Black males goes far beyond just being raised in a single-parent/mother home.
Sho' you're right my sista. And these accussations ARE merely a distraction to the FACT the FATHER choses NOT to be in his son's life....which by the way has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with what the mother is or is not DOING. One thing for sure, she has NOT abandoned her responsibility to her child. And this article as usual is seeking the easy way out by BLAMING mothers for the inadequacies of their sons.... Someone said in a statement above about a boy pulling his pants down to pee instead of taking the aim. Well I have girls. I remember when they tried peeing like boys. This behavior is called the penis envy-where girls try to imitate the way boys use the bathroom. So just because a little boy observes how female uses the bathroom DOES NOT mean he will GROW up using the bathroom in that manner. It is ridiculous to assume so. I think the important thing is to have same sex mentors in your children's lives with the proper supervision. Hell...I came up in a village where I couldn't DO anything "wrong" without getting in trouble with somebody somewhere in neighbor who saw me. Back in those day, Uncle Jeffrow could reprimand you [sometimes slapping you on the butt] or Ms. Ann can put her hands on her hips and tell you a thing or two but that's was because THEY cared and was a part of a close-knit community. I understand that it is NOT like that anymore....but! We have to be very careful with all this noise distracting the fact that while it is LOUD noise about much to do about nothing...I haven't seen REAL men come to the table and say "you know YOU'RE RIGHT....we need to encourage MORE men to be a part of their sons' lives and implement a program to address that. Or the courts need to require bonding time with children along with child support payments." But do they? Hellllllllll no. Men just blame the women instead. So for the brothers who always scream "I'm a man." Try proving it by being a father to your son by giving him the TIME he deserves so he can evolve in his own form of manhood? How about that? But!