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Reply to "Ways Single Mothers Destroy their sons"

Originally Posted by Kocolicious:

  @Brotha RR.  The point I was making in terms of achievement outside of a careered prison-life is that it has NOTHING to do with a man being in the home whether or not the young son will become a  successful "man".   But the guys I tried to ponder on in terms of examples...those guy's names came at the top of my head.  And as far as them experiencing life as adults? Well...we all have problems as human beings....that's part of life learning through the years how to problem-solve, how to acquire wisdom and knowledge .  But quite frankly it's true I do KNOW some black men from a one-parent family who are totally screwed up .......but!  I also know women  from a single parent household that may be screwed up as well.  It can go both ways.  My point again?  This dysfunction where you obtain it or not as a child does not HAVE anything to do with a woman RAISING a son alone-how her son turns out.  Cuz at the end of the day, it becomes a personal decision if manchild/boy wants to accept his manhood-cuz he's gonna be one physically anyway so he might as well decide at the appropriate time instead of trying to catch up once he's grown.  It's not like he can regress and become a child again.  So the decision is up to him. 

 

And unfortunately we as black people are tooooo busy blaming each other inwardly instead of focusing on what is currently happening to our culture outwardly that many of us are losing out on the benefits others died for us for.   We keep falling for the distraction.    I just don't understand.  And of course I am gonna go on the defense for women....cuz !  They have always been the backbone of black culture[and been treated the worse in some ways because of it].  Sorry I'm just not gonna accept the angst of a snout nose article written in poor conjecture essentially claiming because of "black women" young black men are being destroyed.  That's crazy.  And offensive.  Because the bottom line?  Don't care how the writer tries  to break it down,  it  doesn't comply with real life in real black life situations.     Black women are gonna continue having sons and raising them whether black fathers are in their child's life or not.  It many cases this is how it has been for a good while.  And just cuz somebody's writing something saying clearly from their perspective about what they THINK is sooooooo?  Doesn't mean that it is.  Just like anything else,.,,,,it's just a boxed opinion.  My main point.  But! 

My point is that you can find many examples on both sides, but the fact remains a two parent household provides the best, balanced home for the rearing of children...are there exceptions, yes, but by in large, the stats show that those homes fair better in producing functional adults.  

 

The part I underlined above, from your reply is utter bullspit.   What kinda of children will be developed by the mom that got zapped at the mall?  Do you think her encouraging her kids to disrespect a male authority figure is going to help them when they, as adults, deal with policemen? (This was also stated in the text)

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