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Reply to "Ways Single Mothers Destroy their sons"

  I tried responding last night...but!  Too tired and I have a few things to say.  But!  These statements regarding "sons" are sooooooooooo ridiculous that I thought.  Why waste my time and words but I soon began to think how it is important to make it KNOWN on my end that these statements are not only FALSE, conjecture and unrealistic but the statements are trying to point on the side that women are unqualified to raise "the sons" who come from THEIR womb.   The sons they have nutured physically, developmentally and emotionally while they grow inside the walls of their being until ready to be born.  And this person who has done all of this for nine months is therefore incapable of raising that little being into adulthood cuz she doesn't oh lemme see think like a man?!  Come on.  Who in the fock is writing this bullshyte? And let me say....thinking like a man?  Is focking over RATED!!!!   Cuz there are sooooooooo many single households where men are absent.  Now what?  Stop raising the boys cuz there are no men in the house?  How ridiculous does that sound?  It almost seems like the kind of stupid shyte done in India, where the pregnant is put on ultrasound to see if the baby is a boy or girl.  And if it a girl, then the baby is aborted.  Like that doesn't make any sense and is cruel and inhumane towards "female", this article makes no focking sense.

 

For me it isn't even WORTH breaking each statement down cuz whoever wrote it I am sooooooooooo sure was raised by a woman even if there was a father in the home.  This is like breathing without AIR.   Cuz nine times outta TEN women are raising their children [male and female] without the physical assistance of the father.  No?  And something that was once common [2-parent household] is now very rare for long term.  You now have women taking whole of the entire responsibility of raising children....male and female.  So I really don't understand why this writer is focused on throwing women under the bus when the writer KNOWS full well if it were the loving mothers who decided to keep their "boys" close and NOT put them in foster care cuz they are fatherless..but!  Instead these wonderful women chose to RAISE their boys ALONE teaching them self-respect, self-sufficiency, discipline, socialization, goal-setting and confidence before going out in the CRUEL CRUEL world as young black men where the ODDS are soooooo against them cuz they are black....lemme just say this article is a deliberate distraction to belittle, degrade, socially minimize black women to keep the focus on them instead of on the deadbeat black fathers who are not there for their male children [and female children] because they are either in jail, prison, on drugs, homeless, trifling, insensitive to the needs of the children, head messed up cuz they fell for the lies about being a man in the first place and are just simply lazy immature and need to focking GROW up and stop screaming they are a man when in fact their behavior shows OTHERWISE.   

 

If a mere 10 percent of these deadbeat mofos would turn their lives around and become active mature parents for both their sons and daughters....teen pregnancy and male gang participation will decrease at an alarming rate; more black children will graduate from high school and onward to college...just a tiny 10 percent of black  men's parental involvement would make an enormous differences in their children's lives and the black community will be BETTER and stronger for it.  I don't like the fact that this article is all about the male children while dismissing the female children who needs their father's presence as well.  And I must say this also:  the reasons why this generation is sooooooo disrespectful, focked up, vile and don't have a clue?  Which by the way has nothing to do with a man being in the home.  The reasons why?  Is because many blackfolks STOP raising their children for the following reasons:  in jail/prison, on  drugs, lack of education(can't afford to care for them),  unable to teach values and principles, involved in gang and criminal behavior, teen pregancy(too young to care for children), too immature to raise children, self-absorbed in absolutely nothing but themselves-----again all of this have ABSOLUTELY nothing with the man being in the home or not[it's his CHOICE not to be involved with his children].  Let's not forget poverty..that plays a cruial part as well.  But somebody always wanna blame the mother for the woos of children.  She did not HAVE these children by herself.  She didn't just open  her legs and the air dropped in some man's sperm.  

 

It's sooooooooo easy to place blame on women to distact what the FOCK MANY men are NOT doing for their children.  If single black women weren't able to raise their sons we wouldn't have black men like:  Barack Obama, Malcolm X, Richard Wright, George Washington Carver,  Kwesi Mfsume,  Denzel Washington-just to name a few.  Now their fathers may have been there in the beginning of their lives....but!  It was these men's MOTHERS [except one who was raised by the grandmother].....WHO stood the course and raised them ALL into manhood-that's what mothers do.   And that's why MOTHER'S day is one of wall's street biggest celebration in terms of money spent for one DAY!  Other than Christmas.  Plus I personally KNOW single women through the years who RAISED phemenonal black MEN who didn't go into the woos of street life and went on to college and created a wonderful/positive/productive lives for themselves.  So this again...is straight out BULLSHYTE.  No merit.  Nada.  But! 

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