Reply to "Wanted: A Good Black Woman"

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Originally posted by Rowe:
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Originally posted by Oshun Auset:
Very true, but it never has to get to the sexual level for said appreciation... and I'm not referring to you, but I know many people who skip on past the intimacy of friendship and social networking, and primarily focus on the dating/sexual aspect... Yet because they are dealing with the dating/sexual aspect, somehow feel like 'true' multiculturalists when compared to those who don't, as if sexual/dating relationships expose them to some cultural aspect that friendship/networking and other forms of cultural immersion don't...


As far as I'm concerned, if the people involved in the relationship are consenting adults, then each is getting what he or she wants. I'm not going to judge someone's purpose for being in a relationship, and I'm trusting that an adult can make his or her own decisions. Basically, people get together with other people for all types of reasons. Some are curious, and sometimes this curiousity leads to something more serious. That's just the way of the world now. Gone are the days when people felt a social stigma about not dating and marrying someone in their own race. And I think our generation, and those that come after are going to be less and less concerned about this.


I'm not sure what your comment was in reference to in my post, or maybe you were just chatting, but I must admit I actually like the multiculturalism you described in the post HB responded to(as long as one is not putting our liberation on the back burner to achieve the former, which would actually work against what you described), but I also have noticed that because we live in a society that is so 'sex focused' people often substitute true multiculturalism and cultural exchange with inter-racial sexual exploration... which leads to objectification and exotification with very little true cross cultural understanding or exchange. This is counterproductive and works against what you have described above from what I've seen. People often get their shallow level curiosity satisfied, and mistake that for greater/deeper cultural understanding and exchange.
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