Reply to "Wanted: A Good Black Woman"

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Originally posted by HonestBrother:
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Originally posted by Oshun Auset:

I could be wrong HB, but I think the 'winking smiley' in Rowe's post was alluding to how some posters people seem think that multi-cultural appreciation must include, and may even focus on sleeping with dating 'others'... Which of course is bs



Oh ... well if that's the case... sorry ...

Personally .. I've always found Indian art, music, philosophy, and food more beautiful than I found Indian women. Cross cultural dating generally gets low multi-cultural marks from me.

IMO It counts for cultural appreciation. But not a lot.


I feel the same way. I like the food, art, music, culture, and philosophy too. Although I do appreciate the physical beauty of the Indian people, as a I do all people, the men aren't particularly physically attractive to me in the relationship/dating sense. I can apply the above to many peoples now that I think about it.

Cross cultural dating, from what I've observed, does little to guarantee anyone actually knowing much about the culture (beyond the unavoidable surface level) from which their significant other is from. Although I have noticed that some folks seem to think that they are quite aware... This self aggrandized feeling of 'awareness' often has no other form of transmission than sexual osmosis I guess... Which is pretty shallow.

I find that cross cultural interests outside of the sexual/dating impulse are often a much more in depth and honest multiculturalism. Cross cultural dating devoid of any initial true cultural appreciation in other areas often leads to objectification and exotification of the 'other'. Which often uncomfortably mimics the colonial mindset in many ways.
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