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Reply to "Trapping a Man"

"Trapping a man into marriage is a game that white women play. No black woman, that I know of would do anything like that. Let's face it, if a black woman becomes pregnant by a man, HE IS NOT GOING TO MARRY HER."
While I agree with some of what you say, I have to disagree with a lot as well. I have just spent a miserable christmas surrounded by many nieces and nephews who are not married (with the exception of two) who don't need children, yet have them. All I hear at family gatherings is how they hate their baby (insert mama or daddy), etc. I say that could have been prevented. Right now, all of my nieces and nephews who have children, I babysat them as small children over twenty years ago. Now I am babysitting them. And the tragic thing is that when the boy has been trapped, the marriage doesn't work. One of my nephews, who married his girlfriend, a long time ago, and we know the first child is not his, and maybe not the others, is getting a divorce. He is in the navy and she does not want to join him. He was even pushed up on the housing list after the hurricane and got a house, she went to stay with him and then left him. She always want to drop the kids off by my sister's (his mother) and run the streets. My sister finally got sick of it and began to tell her no.


"White people usually tie the knot for the sake of the child. There are misbegotten black children all over the place and that is because black men don't take responsibility for their children."
This is also true, but I think a lot of people regardless of color will not get married, usually young people. And those who do try to do the right thing, sometimes it works and sometimes it don't. One of my nieces got married last year to her second baby daddy, the first one does not claim the child, which is cool to us, because her hubby treats the second child like his own. He is the child of divorce, so he learned that he has to take responsibility. He is a good man, and has a good job. The only thing is that they have moved far away and we don't get to see the kids. My hubby and i babysat the kids all the time whenever they had church functions. They have a 9 month old, 1 1/2 year old and six year old.

"When the average SINGLE black woman gets pregnant, she expects to do it alone. " And I don't know why. But then again, she does get the babyshower because it isn't shameful as it used to be. When my sisters got pregnant, seeing them get in trouble was the ultimate form of birth control. I learned to be careful. Hell, I forged my mom's name to take sex education.

"And white women that get knocked up to hold onto a man have self-esteem issues.[/QUOTE]" I think all women who do that have self-esteem issues, it's not just white women, it's all who do it.
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