I was going to send this in a private message, but I figured that I probably needed to post it publicly.
The message follows:
Hmm. I am certainly not above admitting that there are some specifics that you detail that I had not considered. Which is why I asked you those questions.
I have much to think about... as well as a little less talking and a little more listening to do.
To give you some background: It has been hard-wired in me by my Grandparents, Mom, Aunt and Uncles that I wasn't owed anything by anyone in this life and that if I wanted something I had to be the one to go out and get it. Period. Education was stressed in my family as the great equalizer, rightly or wrongly, in a capitalist system. And even then you couldn't trust those in power not to undercut you. I understood that we had to work twice as hard to gain half the success, and I took that as a challenge... not an obstacle. People who know me will tell you that I am extremely focused, excessively driven, and absolutely unflappable. So, I guess it is hard (no, extremely difficult) for me to grasp that people don't look at the situation as I do and just take it on? It is what it is... now go!
To illustrate this I'll share this personal example; when I am in Gary IN, where my folks live, and I hear brothas gip'n about how bad the white man this... how bad the white man that... my response is, "So. What are you going to do? What if everything you say is true? What are you are going to do about it? You either stand here and whine or you make a plan and go about it." It's what my grandfather used to say to people. Same thing. I always get the most incredulous looks. It isn't that I have an affinity for the white man, I just know how he is and I'm not intimidated by him or anything he can throw up in my way. He will not stop me.
Something so strongly engrained doesn't disappear overnight... but you have given me insights to consider.
Thank you for your time.