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Originally posted by Rowe:
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Originally posted by virtue:
Many reasons.... especially now that I'm back I can see a stark difference...

**influx of northerners bringing their mores....
** lax parenting in general.....
**feminist negative coloring of the practice....
**culture that's male dominated (including hip hop).... where "courtesies" are seen as weak or white...
**no continuity in learning... (read--not as much intergenerational transference of culture)


I was raised in a large city, and I guess I would take offense if a southerner assumed that I lacked morals simply because I don't go around cheesing at everyone in sight. I think those from the south should accept that customs will and do change from one location to the next. In the city, especially cities that are wrought with crime, going around smiling and acting silly is a sign of vulnerability. You put yourself at risk when people intending to do you harm suspects that you are "nice" and easy to manipulate. In these hostile environments, being "friendly" will get your ass killed. Therefore, both women and men existing in these environments learn at a very early age that they must put on their "mug face" just so no one will try to jack them up. That's just reality.



And not only that, Americans in general tend to say hello to strangers more than lets say the French.

People often say French are mean and snobby, merely because they are reserved. Cultural differences in greeting does not mean one lacks morals.
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