quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
I think most shyness is about how a person manages the energy of social interactions and communication in general. Some people are more adept at written communication, verbal communication, non-verbal or a combination... you get my point (I hope). Some people shine in groups while others shine in one on one settings. I think shyness is mostly a mismatch in communication/interpersonal strengths among people.
This is consistent with my understanding of introversion and extroversion. I have been characterized as shy, aloof, reserved, stuck up, etc. One woman, who I had barely acknowledged, came up to me and said that she thought I was a mean and nasty person. We later became friends, but she assumed that because I was not socially open and engaging with respect to her (I should say that this was in the context of being the only two African Americans in a white organization) I was such a person.
Introversion can be exacerbated for those who have a different social style or posture when they are viewed or deemed by the larger social group as abnormal. From my personal experience, one can become a target for ridicule,basically signified as fundamentally "other" because they do not conform to what is seen as the norm.
Again, from personal experience, some of my shyness was exacerbated by how I was accepted socially, particularly as a child. I was derided by peers and even certain family members for speaking standard English, being studious, being overweight, not being athletically adept, etc.