I think everyone should be able to BE who they are - unless their behaviour is unacceptable to any part of society.
As for the big guy running around the block an extra time, or going out of his way.... for myself, as a white woman, if a big guy (of any race) was getting in an elevator with me alone late at night, then just a smile from anyone would make me feel at ease if I felt uneasy. But I would only feel uneasy if I picked up that vibe. I don't expect special treatment.
I don't believe much media hype as it is, because it is sexist and racist and designed to sell a message and a product. TV and Hollywood are among the most sexist employers.
So I don't swallow that every white guy is decent, every black guy must be a dealer, every woman should be stick thin, every woman must be beautiful and sexy 24/7 or she may as well commit suicide.
What I want is the opportunity to talk with all different kinds of people of all races - and of both sexes - without putting my foot in my mouth too often. Which, heck yeah, I find myself doing on occasion.
Speaking for myself, rather than creating a contrived 'comfort zone', I just want the opportunity to talk freely, and honestly, make mistakes, and learn from them.
I don't think there is enough dialog or or discussion between or about inter-racial issues. Some people welcome the opportunity, some don't. To me, any race of people is made up of individuals.