quote:Originally posted by Kocolicious:
I noticed a mother dealing with her ungrateful teen. You could tell he is a gang banger and was there just cuz he had to BE. Otherwise, he would probably be getting into trouble somewhere. I don't profess to be a know-it-all....quite frankly there are a lot of things in this world I know nothing about. However, what I do know is "kids."
~A gangbanger who still shows enough respect for his mother/parent to show up somewhere where he doesn't want to be just because the parent says so and wants him to, is still reachable. All hope is not nearly lost. Tell her to start THERE --- with a pat on her own back that she's instilled that in him, and a pat on his back for giving her at least that much (because it could be worse; he could have ZERO respect for her wishes). Accentuate the postive, start right there and proceed with baby steps. Grasp at that positive and milk the hell out of it. Don't just gloss over it and go straight for the negative. By all means, do get TO the negative --- don't ignore it --- but, all that fussing and harping can fall on completely deaf ears if you don't give him his due. He'll hear her "better". I think it's heartwarming that he showed up for her. ....A gangbanger? Listening to mamma when she tells him to be somewhere?! That's too cute!~