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fro I was angry yesterday about the grave robbers situation...I really didn't participate in the raffle giveaway...my heart WAS NOT in it[and I'm glad I wasn't the one overseeing this event so....] I only stayed for a few seconds and left! But they were JAMMING! Music was good. Old school stuff. I noticed a mother dealing with her ungrateful teen. You could tell he is a gang banger and was there just cuz he had to BE. Otherwise, he would probably be getting into trouble somewhere. I don't profess to be a know-it-all....quite frankly there are a lot of things in this world I know nothing about. However, what I do know is "kids." Cuz the development of human beings HAVE NOT changed over the years. In fact, since the creation of "beings." You still have to crawl before you walk, move from childhood to adolescence to adulthood and all that blah blah-this human process happens the SAME WAY all over the world. Having said that, I could see that the mother was having a problem....as I was exiting I told her "this too shall past".... her tired eyes was an indication she was at her wit's end. She said she gave him everything....had his own room with cable....didn't have to WALK to school....he even had a little job. She couldn't figure out what was the HELL wrong with him. I said "typical adolescent snobbishness....as a result of unbalanced hormones, growing spurts, cognitive arranging and rearranging....in other words...he's trying to figure out WHO HE IS in all of this (as his body grows and develop into its physical permanent state.) Normal. Your role as a parent is to CHANNEL all this constructively....and be the BOSS...not the FRIEND. Kids have enough FRIENDS. They need parents who can BOSS them around so they can develop their social skills....cuz in life everyone has a BOSS one time or another...like it or not. This is the WAY OF THE WORLD. I also told her to take the reins away from him. He hasn't earned them. He is STILL a child no matter if he is 6'5. Take back your CONTROL. You can tell she loves her son. But love him enough to SAVE him from his own stupidity. Cuz teens not all teens are STUPID at this age. No matter what walk of life they derived. I didn't talk to her too long cuz I really DON'T like talking about the child in front of the child. Not a good thing, in my opinion. But what I did do was ask the young man did he want his life. He rolled his eyes. I said "well there are a lot of people who want their lives and could use your healthy kidneys, liver and other organs-since it seems you don't appreciate having them." No response from him. Typical. Not important. For me the important thing was to plant that seed. To give him something to think about. I don't care if he looked me up and down...and frowned. Care less! What do I care about is one day [when he's about 24 or 25] he can look at his mother straight in the eyes with all sincerity and heart...and say lovingly "thankyou for NOT giving up on me. Your love SAVED my life. And I am so grateful." That's what is important to me....that he will BE HERE to say that to his mother some day...cuz there are SOOOO many young black boys/men [just like him] today...who CANNOT.fro
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