I hear you virtue (and I've always heard qty226 too) - color complex is quite the issue. Teenage socialization is always a landmine-filled terrain. In one way or another, we all have issues to sort out. For me, I was always considered "too brainy". For someone that doesn't know your issues, the defense response seems like an unjustified lash out.
Know that with time & personal effort, things get better. Not because others change, but because you become comfortable with who you are. When that happens, the guards come down and you just live.
Now I think I understand a little better why darker sisters may have bristled at my attention back in the day. Perhaps they did not believe me to be sincere. It usually took a lot more effort to maintain those relationships.
Damn - see what happens when we get real and talk to each other instead of at each other.
Thanks virtue for your honest & real moment... If I had been thinking about girls back then (my head was always in a book!), I never would of done that to you.