That's quite a moving story virtue.... which all goes to prove how stupid and shallow people can be.
I feel for you and Qty - and like I've said before on this forum - the mind boggles!
However, I do feel I need to say that dark chocolate men experience that too. So if men are saying the same thing then... think about how can you work it out.
I'm not saying IR dating is for everyone, and I can understand all the reasons for black women not wanting to date anyone other than black men, but if a brother only gets attention from sistas when he turns up with a Latino or white woman on his arm, then one day he wakes up and thinks 'stuff that', I'll get me what I want when I want it.
There is no gang of white women or Latino women waiting to ambush black men. Black men (all men) ultimately choose to be with who they want to be with, which translates to... who they can be themselves with.
Likewise there are plenty of black men who will no way want to date non-black women.
I'm not sticking up for black men over black women, I simply have more insight into one side. However it seems the same issue is affecting both genders. Face it.... both sides have issues... not one more than the other.
I think there needs to be more communicating and less attitoooode on both sides. Embrace the issues and see where it goes...more talk, less aggravation.
Whoever you date should always be about free choice.