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Reply to "Radio Raheem's Personal tribute to Interracial couples"

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Originally posted by HonestBrother:
And if I've dated white women in the past, it's because I couldn't find a black woman


hmmmmm.....Was the grass greener on the other side?

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1) Didn't have a major attitude problem about black men
May I offer my opinion?

A Black woman may have an attitude because she's been hurt.... How do you respond to someone in pain?.... You offer comfort.... not judgment.... that will come later... after they know that you are someone they can trust will not hurt their heart anymore.....She may not be the one... but she is your "sister" so to speak.... and needs her self-image and hope revitalized if just in an instant..... Your brethren have done much damage in your name (Black Man)..... It's going to take different experiences and promotion thereof to change perceptions....


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2) Wasn't look for a 6 figure earning fancy car driving man


May I say that... there are gold diggers.... and then there are women who simply want more out of life.... and for a woman (especially if she wants children).... she has to seriously consider a man who will not only be able to provide.... but also who will be able to provide if there are children (that will need her in a young age).... This is reality.... survival.... Then there is hope... everyone wants to improve...

So here is what I hear coming from my sisters.... Not 6 figure salary.... But "Is he going somewhere in life?" In this capitalist society that question is easily identifiable with material gain....

Every one has their different ideas of what that is.... But when you are here.... things cost... and a woman during pregnancy, nursing, infancy, toddler stage, etc... may not be the steady employee if she has a heart for her children.... she has to consider a man that will be able to not only provide the "basics" in her absence.... but also will continue to place the family forward.... this is almost instinctive....


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3) Wasn't looking for a 6 ft. tall guy with a little (or even a lot of) thug in him


Unfortunately, many sisters are mislead about how to read in a man what they "really" want.... Many women are attracted to "thugs" or "some thug in him" Not because they want a criminal... but because a thug represents... "Nonconformity" this gives the illusion of "Power" the thug also represents "Strength".... this gives the illusion of protection.... Powerful, Man in Control, Knows what he wants, Strong... etc...

These are traits that are attractive in "Men" but are highly represented in our culture through the "thug"...... Many women have no other examples of these qualities outside of the thug image....


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4) Wasn't a Jesus freak from Mars


People want to have the peace that comes from knowing right from wrong.... often they dive deep into their professed beliefs... if you understand people and why they do things.... you will know how to reach them when they are in error....

Many sisters are lonely... brother... Religion gives and keeps their dignity... and gives them hope.... some misuse this ...... but we need more compassion for each other.... it's hard... but needed none the less...


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5) Just was plain not interested for whatever reason.


Not everyone will recognize a beautiful man in their midst..... But not everyone can fit together..... Her loss... Perhaps... or maybe .... relief for you both.....

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I repeat, I've EXCLUSIVELY dated black women for a few years now and its been the most depressing dating period of my life. I'm tired of this crap.

I'm not saying that I'm Denzel. I'm not chopped liver either. But DAAAAYUM. My experience seems to suggest that Sistas have some major damn problems too......


Sisters do have MAJOR ISSUES... but we all do.... and it's dishearteniing to hear your experiences.... But don't shut the door to happiness.... in a sister.... there is love there... and comfort.... we have that in abundance... We have SOUL remember? You just have to know how to tap into it.... Or know when to recognize it in your midst....


Peace,
Virtue
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