quote:Originally posted by qty226:
As i've mentioned before (some people want to ignore this fact)........this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!
This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.
(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)
I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.
Qty, I guess I should cut you some slack too. My sister has had this problem. So I do sympathize. Guys who make skin shade a criterion are shallow. I've seen absolutely beautiful sistas of all skin shades. All I can say is to keep your options open. And here's a piece of advice I've given to my own brother: Put your yourself in social situations where your special qualities shine. Night Clubs are not it. People in clubs tend to be shallow almost by definition. I mean develop hobbies. Join book clubs. Go to poetry readings. Etc. I'm serious. I do these things myself. Not that I've been terribly successful at finding a mate. But I do have a more interesting social life and more dates.