quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
Take the one-sided gender references (the phenomenon should be offensive whether it's Black men or women using the tactic) out and I agree with:quote:I hate to hear a black man put use down because he prefers something other then us to justify his actions... I just get heated when black men put us down to justify why they date other nationalities.
Raheem, you might have another riot on your hands!
HB - be careful! Your worldview at 23 was probably different than it is 35. Give qty a chance to live & adjust hers. Clearly, Tampa, has a lot to do with how she views things. I would bet 5lbs. of protein that if she went to school in the AUC, her outlook on Black dating would be a little different.
To all the advocates of IR relationships - how do you manage the culture conflicts along with the normal gender conflicts?
I personally view all conflicts in that relationship as normal, not race based. I think that it takes two VERY understanding people to look above race to have a functional relationship. Race topics have come up in those relationships, for me, but since she nor I are racist, they have been discussed without anger/hatred.