Yes, D, I am new here and, trust me, it is not my intention to disclaim anyone's views or opinions. I was asking for real life examples/experiences. Not perspective (which we all know can be questioned).
I don't know any of the other sistas on the site so I can only speak for myself when I say that the only way to "fix" this is to fully communicate the issues and look for REAL ways to adjust...... I mean, if its too late for me, let me teach my daughters to be "good" women in the eyes of society-MOST importantly, the black man.