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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:

A guy can't get mad when he dresses up like a fireman and stands by a firetruck, and someone asks him for help, can he?

You can interpret it how you want. It all makes perfect sense to me. If I seem to be standing more on the male side, I guess that's just the way it is.

There is a difference between a woman who sleeps with one or more men that she has more than a sexual relationship with, and, a woman who sleeps around ONLY for money, trophy-hunting, lack of self-esteem or other 'favours' - certainly, that does qualify as whorish behaviour. The same should apply equally to men.

UNLESS there is a double standard which suggests that it doesn't matter WHY a guy sleeps around any excuse is all fine, fabulous, never questioned, never criticized etc. That is being unequal and sexist.

BOTH men and women have the ability to make an individual, conscious choice how to behave.

I was not trying to be 'trick' with your fireman analogy, I just didn't understand it. I asked so I wouldn't misinterpret it.

I take it you are saying that people who act promiscuously deserve to be treated that way, as somehow inferior and less worthy. Unless, they are men.

I am not advocating promiscuity as a way of life, and I agree that they are putting themselves at personal risk.

But the next step with that is to say that women who dress provocatively (and isn't that open for interpretation) deserve to get raped. (I am NOT SAYING you believe that). Sorry but I don't buy into either argument or line of thinking.

I expect to treat people how they are when I meet them and in that context and not make assumptions. I prefer to make up my own mind. People should never be judged, period. But more importantly, people should never be judged for their actions purely from: gossip, assumption; based only on past behaviour not current; because it's likely they have evolved or grown.

Why have a prison system or rehabilitation if everyone supposedly never changes or evolves or gains insight or self-evaluates? Some people don't change but lots of people do.

The issue I have with dialog that contains words such as 'should' and 'judging' and what's considered 'right' or 'wrong' is that no there is no absolute one-size-fits-all same 'right and wrong solution' guaranteed to be relevant for every person, in every situation, in every culture, to suit every stage of people's lives.

In other words, my philosophy is to give everybody the benefit of the doubt until they prove otherwise.