Reply to "PROMISCUITY"

I disagree with the ˜whore' statement.

IMHO, if you are disgustingly promiscuous (and I guess that's the only kind of promiscuity there is) and/or a prostitute, you are a whore. I have heard the term applied to males as well as females. I do not support usage of the term in unecessary situations, and I do realize there has been an overusage of it in music and the black community.

Yes, there is a double standard. I don't see why this is a surprise to anyone. When it boils down to it though, that's not the point. The answer is not to make the name calling equal between the sexes. NO ONE should get a pass for being promiscuous, and females should not be ˜let off the hook' or given an easier time about it. If a male, or in the more common case, a female, does not appreciate the name calling, maybe they should think twice about their behavior. No one is forcing these people (maybe with the exception of the violent pimp) to sleep with so many partners. Making choices means dealing with the consequences.

As far as there being a double standard, I don't find myself shocked or even too angry about it. How often do you hear a man being called a ˜dog', or the statement that all men think with the head down below instead of the one up top? It has become the social norm to assume that all men put sex first on their agendas. And women believe it. Whether is it completely true has yet to be determined, but it seems ridiculous to me to so blatantly admit men are sex fiends, then act surprised when they sleep around so frequently and no one says anything about it. If everyone is admitting they EXPECT promiscuity from men, what's with the shock and awe when it happens?

On the other hand, it is still imprinted in the back of many people's minds that women are the complete opposite. They are not SUPPOSED to act so inappropriately. They are SUPPOSED to be lady-like and polite. They are SUPPOSED to maintain wife and motherly duties. They are SUPPOSED to sit with their legs crossed. So when they sleep with a million men and yes, act whorish, people are bound to be disgusted. THAT'S WHY women are called names more frequently then men. IT'S NOT EXPECTED. It's a hard fact to accept because this is 2005, and you would think these preconceptions would be extinguished by now. People might not like to admit it, but I think just about all of us have our ideas about how we expect men and women to act.

We can't complain about the double standard until we learn to rid ourselves of false notions about the sexes. I believe men and women were assigned roles by God. This is what is SUPPOSED to be, but we have to realize that not everything happens like it's supposed to. By believing all men will be dogs, all women will be lady-like, etc., the double standard will remain rooted in place.

Just my humble two cents.
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