quote:when asians come to this country, their bond to family, culture and community is quite profound. academic mediocrity or failure is seen as shameful...nothing less than excellence is acceptable. and i know this from relating to asian people i have known. for example, have an indian friend, who had one average semester back when we were in college. he was born in america and thus americanized so excessive partying, hanging out and cramming for examinations was the norm. when his mother saw the grades, she said he was a shame not only to family but to india. needless to say, my friend excelled from there.
black americans don't operate that way and to be honest, i wish we did...we would be better off (at least academically) for it.
Why do we continue to take denigrate ourselves?
I, for one, partied my butt off my entire 1st semester of college and my grades reflected it. When I got my grades, I was embarassed and ashamed to show them to my parents. When I finally did, they read me the riot act and I excelled from there.
I would wager that there are far more Black parents riding Black students to achieve than we give ourselves credit for.
Just ask any child of Black parents that wanted to go to college but for whatever reason couldn't, but worked 2 jobs to afford their child the opportunity.