quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by The one and only ME:
I am not posting this as a ploy to meet new men to date. (If that happens, cool, but thats not my intention!) I am posting this story because I hear so many men complain about women for various reasons-mainly because of baggage they bring to relationships. Brothers, I want you to know that there are sistas out there who have experienced all sorts of pain and sorrow and are still open to love.
Don't Take It Personal
Sister TOAOM, first I want to welcome you to the forum, and thank you for sharing such a detailed and personalized story with us. I'm sure it must have been a great relief to unload these feelings and put them into writing; however, I would not take personally any of the topics being posted. Many of the threads that are being posted by various members are created only to inspire conversation, not to personally attack women or men, or to personally attack people individually. Brother Raheem, in particular, is well-known for posting controversial topics and provocative photos for the express purpose of inciting people's interests and to get people talking, and that's it. I just wanted to share this with you, because it reads as if might be a little overwhelmed by the mood that's been established over here, which admittedly, can be a little glum (and combative) at times. Unfortunately, we have our share of pity parties over here.
I disagree. My intent was to provide an honest review of this thread/her story. She appeared to be in love with a man that simply 'spit game' and got her twisted/sprung. I doubt if any women here would have given that assessment, which by the way she agreed with. I think that too often women assume that they are going to get a 'you go girl!!!' or 'all these trifling men!!'...sometimes the truth from a man's point of view is helpful. I remember a few times when I simply expressed an opinion different from the 'yes, i agree' and got railroaded for it, i.e. [older] professional women have a hard time with dating [and finding deep commitments] because they aren't as desired as younger women, men: are you attracted to big women? [I think not], or dating women with kids(watering someone else's seed? wouldn't it be easier to date a childless woman?)]. I understand the anger generated by my opinions, women simply don't want to hear the truth or any thing other than what they believe to explain why their dating/love life sucks...'if men are worthless, then it's not my fault I can't have/find/keep a good man in my life'...'nothing I did to cause it...I'm suffering because I only want black men and plan to hold oyut until i get my own'..'it's the man shortage!!!'. I take it all those negative comments with a grain of salt. Maybe my purpose here is to simply make people think differently than they have for so long. I hope you have a lovely day