You know, that's a very difficult situation. I really appreciate that you've shared that with us. I'll offer my perspective.
I really believe that everything that happens in life is God's will. Even things that outwardly would appear to be bad, painful, even "evil", are in fact a result of God's will and grace. The challenge is for us to seek to understand the meaning and messages to us in those events.
When I was 11, I lost my only little brother who was 4. That was an extraordinarily tragic and painful event. To this day, 29 years later, I still feel the tremendous void in my life from his absence. Nevertheless I believe it was God's will for that to happen. I may still not have learned all of the lessons from that, but my mind is open. I strive to learn and to grow. I seek to understand God's lessons for me. I pray for wisdom and perseverance. I also have faith that everything that God puts in front of me is for a reason and is perfect for me.
So I think you can start your prayer with thanks to God, and perhaps a request for understanding and strength. Maybe it can provide some comfort to remember that God loves you and that however painful or confusing things may be at the moment, that He has your best interest at heart. That's my $ .02. My prayers are with you all there.
Onward and Upward!
[This message was edited by MBM on August 29, 2002 at 09:14 PM.]