quote:Originally posted by Kai:
Peace...quote:She hasn't earned any special treatment from me... I'll treat her as I would anyone else... especially if she's going to be as pigheaded as you are.... In fact, she got off sorta light
Special treatment? I wasn't expecting that...I was expecting you to treat her like she was a woman that you respect.
I think that the civilized man would understand that there is a proper way to handle a woman. Your anger will be no excuse for assaulting a woman that you have praised everyday before now.
We boast and brag about how educated we are and yet we behave like savages when it comes to our women.
i understand why the sisters here would be insulted to see the men on this board lusting after whores while singing the praises of thinking women.
HonestBrother, your monday morning apologies will ring hollow when those who know you begin to realize that your abuses are habits...
Yes I have cooled off. And Yes I still believe he's an arrogant liar. And no amount of good will and reconciling is going to change the fact that I sincerely dislike this man.
Read the beginning of the thread, folks. Everyone was leery as to whether Kai was again asking a question with an agenda - on the very first page of the thread - and it turns out to be the case that he was.
If this newcomer wants to feel "welcome": then he should
1) Avoid starting threads with a question for which he is only prepared to receive one right answer. If he's not ready for a true discussion why pretend to start one?
2) When people say things that don't fall into line with his agenda, He needs to HONESTLY deal with what they actually say instead of forcing them into line with his agenda by either ignoring what they say or INTENTIONALLY distorting what they say to fit (and it's this tendency which I've labeled 'bullying'). I can point to several instances in my exchanges with him where he does this. If you want a line by line analysis and justification for my claims, I'm ready for it.
Being the newcomer, I really don't understand how he can behave as he does and honestly expect to be welcome. How do you behave like an asshole and expect to be welcomed?
Kai, you want my respect? Begin by stop hiding behind your 'newcomer' status and playing the innocent role like you simply have no idea. This act insults the intelligence of everyone on this board. It is beneath the dignity of a grown man who is responsible for his actions and contributes greatly to my perception that you are dishonest.
Yes.. I know I don't need to respond in kind.. For that I take full responsibility... Yes I should display more restraint... And I have not always acted maturely... These are my issues for which I take full responsibility and that I need to deal with...Knowing when to walk away...
And, folks I'm not trying to get the last word in here. But I will not pretend like all is well when it is not.
The best I can do is promise to avoid any thread he starts. Unless something drastic happens - like Kai and I suddenly becoming best pals - on this, you have my word.
PS: There are, in addition, personal issues between us which the board is not privy too. Kai needs to grow up and stop acting out of spite and jealousy... where he halfway spills the beans, revealing personal issues, then goes on to claim that it's all over everything I've written on the board. When he says that, either he's a liar or he's paranoid. For those who have been paying attention, he exhibits a similar pattern of aggression towards Black Viking who he also perceives as being "too close" to a certain female poster (that you all probably know who I'm talking about by now). Again he needs to be a man and drop the innocent act.
While we're telling the truth, Kai followed this female poster here from another board. He then perceived that some male posters were uncomfortably close to her. I suspect (I have no proof aside from a very strong pattern) that his intention from the start was to come here playing NOI alpha male, to provoke me in particular (which admittedly I fell for), and to make me look bad in the eyes of the object of his affection (and I helped him do it). His intent was slander from the start.
HOW ELSE DO YOU EXPLAIN THE INTENSE ATTENTION HE'S GIVEN TO MY POSTS - even ones that were made long before he came around???????
IMO - and it is my opinion - Kai doesn't care about this community. Kai cares about being closer to a certain someone than anybody else here is. And if he can't have her, no one else will either.
That's why Black Viking has received similar treatment from him - although BV has been admirably self-controlled.
Folks, I don't mean to be indiscrete but all of this is as transparent as Michael "the Chatterbot" Lofton once you understand the underlying principles involved.