Who is right - that's the million dollar question. Unfortunately, the answer is not as cut and dry as you present it to be Kai. Personally, I think you and HB would do well not saying anything to one another, ever again (he might need to add virtue to that list too)! Unfortunately, part of the forum culture is drama & flame wars, even at AA.org.
IMO, virtue does not get a pass for her part in this whole mess. Lately, her strategy has been to hurl veiled attacks & then claim her words have been twisted. This immediately wrecks any chance for prolonged calm, rational discussion. Between this thread and the one in A Sista's Spot, her intentions became clear: To label the picture threads here as inappropriate and to question the morality/decency/intelligence of anyone who disagrees with her assessment (phrased just vaguely enough to create the illusion of possible misinterpretation). Though Frenchy & I don't see eye to eye on a few things, I've always respected her honest, direct approach. Go back and read the threads again - v has taken digs left & right. Everyone has a breaking point and it's unfair to cite gender as a reason for accepting excessive abusive remarks.
Kai, I don't respond to you the way I do because you're new. I (and others) have issue with your approach. I'm not asking you to change anything, but you've tried your current tract multiple times and have gotten the same result. If you're cool with the way things are so be it.
The association being made between the pictures & promiscuity is tenuous at best. I don't even think this discussion is about pictures anymore. It's about control. Control to limit the number of picture threads. Control to recognize that every decision won't go your way (and not throw a tantrum about it). Control to avoid people & threads that you do not approve of. Control to respect a difference of opinion without publicly trashing someone. Control not to force everyone to see/do things your way.
I suspect everybody might need to cool it for a minute. There was a guy named IRONHORSE that acted the way you gentlemen are - and he's no longer here...