quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
Then you move on, learn from it and in the next relationship hopefully act with more honor and valor.
There is simply no excuse for infidelity: If one is unhappy in their relationship you have two choices: Fix it or end it...there is no gray area, no "what if's" or "yeah buts"...cheating is trying to have everything without sacrificing.
Never trust anyone who comes at you with a laundry lists of reasons to justify infidelity..that person (man or woman) is nothing but scum and the humane thing to do would be to drive a wooden stake thru thier forehead...cause their vampires! LOL
This is why i have issues with infidelity, because you may be destroying something that you may never find again.
But thats why this question is so important.
........Although no one is perfect, and things happen, why would you tell, if there is a strong possibility, you'll lose all you have worked so hard for?
Well from my personal perspective, I'm a big believer in honor. Doesnt mean one should be mr/mrs. holy than thou..but there is just a basic courtesy that should carried out in life. If you tell someone that your "heart", "emotions" et all is only for that person, you've established a bond that is almost sacred (if not actually sacred). And infidelity is never a mistake. That is a deliberate act that has to be thought thru (even if you're drunk). Plus, no matter what, if you cheat, it's going to be found out. Someone knows..they always know...ESPECIALLY in this day and age. Might as well come out with it and let the chips fall where they may because it can't be hidden....BLACK PEOPLE REALLY cant keep this a secret..LOL..everyone from Shaquanna to DeKimbo is acheing to drop dime...a little tryst becomes everyone else's free entertainment.