quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by TruthSeeker:
Infidelity represents the death of trust. While it may be possible to rebuild love after infidelity, I'm not sure you can rebuild the trust on which that love is built.
Sure, the easy answer would be to say no, don't confess to an indiscretion she never found out about. But I think eventually I'd have to say something. If my feelings were truly real for the woman, at a deeper level my knowledge of what I'd done would diminish, or make a mockery of what our relationship was about to me. Would a confession absolve that? Who knows? (and at that point it could fairly be asked if the confession was for me or for her?) But I'd definitely know that I'd taken something, some purity, from what we had. No momentary thrill would be worth that price, I'd think.
Yes, but what happens if you are not forgiven?
Then you move on, learn from it and in the next relationship hopefully act with more honor and valor.
There is simply no excuse for infidelity: If one is unhappy in their relationship you have two choices: Fix it or end it...there is no gray area, no "what if's" or "yeah buts"...cheating is trying to have everything without sacrificing.
Never trust anyone who comes at you with a laundry lists of reasons to justify infidelity..that person (man or woman) is nothing but scum and the humane thing to do would be to drive a wooden stake thru thier forehead...cause their vampires! LOL