Good on you djonmaila. I don't know whether I could be as brave as you though. The truth is I can not cheat because the consequencies are just too great, I would be scared out of my mind if I got caught. Here in London your wife would promptly kick you out of the house for starters and you would be sleeping rough in the street. No woman or infedility is worth that. Then there is the shame of facing the children, no no no. Not worth it, not in a million years.
So should you tell. I would want to but I can't and I would have to live with that shame forever. Maybe when we are both old then I would tell.
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