I feel bad for his wife too. Quite frankly, I would be freaking out-taking all kinds of tests. Cuz men on the down low care nothing about their "beards" i.e. women/wives they are having sex with. And my first question: did you wear a condom? Cuz man I dont care what anyone says that is NASTY as hell. And unclean. And the kids? What embarrassment for them! That's why I say if you just wanna keep having SEX...don't get married, don't have kids-it's not fair to the people who love you while you love lusting/risking your life and are willing to subject your family to it. I would be getting a divorce, if I were her. And I would tell her....please don't do the desperate thing and forgive him...kick his NASTY ass straight to the curb. No mo' time for talking-time to start walking. But!